With asshole mods and asshole users running amok around instances unchecked while playing victim when the favor is returned to them. I find that the fediverse as a whole is just like any other socializing platform. No different, just a different coat of paint and a neat little mechanic in how it operates. But, still the same old shit.
How disappointing.
So… then host your own instance and set up your own rules and mod /de-federate how you see fit?
It’s an offer you don’t have to take as-is, and this shows it’s the exact opposite of a failure: you can be the change you demand from others.