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Yeah, I do think 20 is too young.

why wait if you know what you want?

This is a fair question but honestly there’s so many good reasons to wait.

The obvious answer is… if it’s really what you want then what’s the hurry ? I mean it’s great that you’ve found your life partner and whatever and that your future seems so certain, but why complicate things with marriage? I’m honestly kinda wondering. Is it the commitment that’s important to you? Are you waiting to have sex? Do you actually want to get pregnant?

If it’s the commitment that you want, then oh my god marriage is a terrible idea.

If it’s sex, then… well… there’s probably not much I can say that will change your mind. Still a terrible idea.

If it’s kids then if your wife to be gets pregnant before commencing a career you’re king of condemning her to a life time of minimum wage jobs. You might be planning for a trad-wife kind of situation but … plans change. It’s a bit like planning for a career as a rock star - it’s great to follow your dreams but your partner needs a plan B.

If none of the above apply then there doesn’t seem to be any good reason to get married. Spend 5 years living with your respective parents and save up for a deposit on a house or something.

I’m honestly kinda surprised that Google is apparently not in fact doing this already and (according to the comments here) continues to not do so.