During college I got asked out by a few women as a man and I appreciate the initiative!
Be it woman or man, asking someone out is never easy because you’ll make yourself vulnerable to rejection. So ask friendly and politely for a meeting in a safe space like a cafe and make it easy for the other person to decline and save their face if they have no interest. The other way around, turn others down with respect to their effort of making themselves vulnerable (‘I am flattered by your offer but I have other plans for that evening’ or something).
I have asked out a few women and got rejected some times. But with the ones who said yes I have spent years of great relationships, some of which even have turned into friendships. And I got to spend years with girls who I thought were way out of my league. But it turns out we’re all just people and they were also happy that someone asked them out!
Not all of the dating world is hostile and there are still women and men out there with a good heart. Don’t try too hard, get yourself out there in clubs or sports and go to parties occasionally. I have never used a dating platform and yet I had the pleasure to spend quality time with many wonderful people.
In an ideal society, we would just go and ask the person we adore out, no matter what gender or social framing we have. And even if the person asking you out is definitely not your type, don’t let them feel bad - make them feel good about asking, boost their confidence.
My last girlfriend asked me out (she beat me to the punch by like 2 text messages, but still). It took a lot of the nerves off that relationship starting out.
During college I got asked out by a few women as a man and I appreciate the initiative!
Be it woman or man, asking someone out is never easy because you’ll make yourself vulnerable to rejection. So ask friendly and politely for a meeting in a safe space like a cafe and make it easy for the other person to decline and save their face if they have no interest. The other way around, turn others down with respect to their effort of making themselves vulnerable (‘I am flattered by your offer but I have other plans for that evening’ or something).
I have asked out a few women and got rejected some times. But with the ones who said yes I have spent years of great relationships, some of which even have turned into friendships. And I got to spend years with girls who I thought were way out of my league. But it turns out we’re all just people and they were also happy that someone asked them out!
Not all of the dating world is hostile and there are still women and men out there with a good heart. Don’t try too hard, get yourself out there in clubs or sports and go to parties occasionally. I have never used a dating platform and yet I had the pleasure to spend quality time with many wonderful people.
In an ideal society, we would just go and ask the person we adore out, no matter what gender or social framing we have. And even if the person asking you out is definitely not your type, don’t let them feel bad - make them feel good about asking, boost their confidence.
My last girlfriend asked me out (she beat me to the punch by like 2 text messages, but still). It took a lot of the nerves off that relationship starting out.