It bewilders me how anyone could give their kid’s stuff away without asking, and yet I’ve heard it from so many people.
I guess the thought process goes like “They’re grown up and don’t need ‘toys’ anymore!” and so they give the toys away to someone they think ‘wants’ them, and they’re ‘doing you a favour’ getting rid of it.
But even if they believed that’s true - which it often isn’t - those things were given to you as gifts. They were yours! They didn’t belong to your parents anymore to give away! And that really feels like a violation of trust.
When I came back from college my room was exactly as I left it. And when I moved out I decided on my own time what I wanted and what I didn’t. So thank you Mum and Dad for respecting my space and my person.
It bewilders me how anyone could give their kid’s stuff away without asking, and yet I’ve heard it from so many people.
I guess the thought process goes like “They’re grown up and don’t need ‘toys’ anymore!” and so they give the toys away to someone they think ‘wants’ them, and they’re ‘doing you a favour’ getting rid of it.
But even if they believed that’s true - which it often isn’t - those things were given to you as gifts. They were yours! They didn’t belong to your parents anymore to give away! And that really feels like a violation of trust.
When I came back from college my room was exactly as I left it. And when I moved out I decided on my own time what I wanted and what I didn’t. So thank you Mum and Dad for respecting my space and my person.