I say I am 8. Perhaps one could get used to it by practice. But I made bad experiences and constantly afraid of personal attacks based on ultra-quick judgment.

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    23 days ago

    I’m not saying social anxiety is the only reason for avoiding interacting with other people based on their age/race/socioeconomic status/etc, but it’s one of the few that doesn’t fall into the “bigot” category, IMO.

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        22 days ago

        Most of your criteria for deciding whether to interact with someone seems to be based on their ethnicity, native language, age, or gender.

        noun One who is strongly partial to one’s own group, religion, race, or politics and is intolerant of those who differ.

        https://www.wordnik.com/words/bigot

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          Yeah, but the criteria includes my own group and also literally includes me. So by your own definition I can’t be a bigot.

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              19 days ago

              Uncle Ruckus is a white supremacist who claims to be white and has internalized racism towards blacks folks.

              My post was partly in jest, because OP talked about being silently judged for their characteristics, so I drew up an increasingly absurd and unhinged list that judges everyone by clearly nonsensical characteristics.

              To make sure it’s very clearly a joke I made sure to be discriminatory towards every ethnicity and just to make it beyond obvious what I was doing was satire, I included myself in the list, but again discriminated only based on certain clothes, just in case the absurd scenario of me not talking to a hypothetical clone of myself wasn’t absurd enough on its own.

              Honestly, I don’t know how much more obvious it could be. Maybe you need some media literacy, or failing that at least a sense of humor.

              This was also posted in the hope that OP realizes how weird it would be for his fears to be true and help them get over their social anxiety.