How do I put this, your belief of what Lemmy and a forum are intended for are…misguided? Not quite the word I’m looking for, but close.

A forum is a 3rd space, like a bar, a restaurant, a community garden, a local store that runs tabletop games, or even a park. A gathering space for people to intermingle. But that doesn’t mean that a forum has to allow everything. 3rd spaces still have rules to be followed. When you enter Blahaj, you agree to abide by the house rules. And some of those rules are there specifically to stop sealioning behavior, which trans people are subjected to endlessly everywhere else on the web and looks exactly like this:

Inherently transphobic? You’re just assuming and extrapolating

Don’t assume it’s malicious, they might just not know. Aren’t we here to discuss? Being wrong doesn’t mean I should be banned, but I should be corrected. Closing debates when I’m respectful isn’t useful to anyone

I just like to question things, not take and accept them just because the person is concerned by the topic, especially if they have a sensibility or opinion on the subject

There are places where those kinds of questions and debates are okay (as long as they’re sincere and not malicious), but Blahaj is designed to be a space where trans people can get together and not be bombarded by those sorts of questions endlessly.