(i’m asking a discussion question for more advice +update ig)

my girlfriend ivy is a gamer. she plays video games “with the boys” (her guy friends) for hours non-stop and doesn’t do much else. her whole life is dedicated to video games. she is passionate about them and they are her main interest.

lately we’ve been having a problem of her not wanting to go out with me or spend time one-on-one because she wants to play games with the lads.

by the time i was able to ask her if she wanted to go somewhere, she was already in a game and didn’t want to pause it. then, i asked her when she finally stopped hours later to take a break.

her response was “nah, i don’t really like that place. but you can go if you want and you can watch me play games when you’re done”.

i enjoy her company and she still talks to me when we play video games but i wanna do other things other than just playing/watching video games.

she, however, doesn’t really get it and doesn’t wanna go out or do anything else. i guess i will just suck it up because she still talks to me?? please don’t criticize me for this and be civil. i just wanna hear what you did in a gamer relationship.

  • janNatan@lemmy.ml
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    2 days ago

    My husband and I are both gamers. However, I hate online games and he loves them. Our problem was more with him being ridiculously loud (literally screaming) while playing.

    And the solution was to talk to him about it and be patient with him as he transitioned into enjoying his games at a more reasonable volume. Relationships of all sorts often involve compromise.

    Don’t just tell her you want to go out. Explain to her that you want to do something together, just the two of you. Explain how you feel and why you want to spend time with her. She might have a solution you never even thought of.