No worries, great points you listed and definitely good angles on how to tackle it. Definitely will need a wide range of solutions done in tandem and those are definitely up there as well

I’m here proud of everyones growth arc. Good on you all!!

I used to be like that too but have grown out of it for years now. Main focus besides getting into Software Engineer, Linux, Open Source, and making Fangames is looking to make friends/community now with plenty of all kinds of people from all over the world for all kinds of interests.

My Origin Story could not be any closer to what a villain would have gone through to become what they are now. Yet I still made the realization that they just didn’t want me as part of their family and not everyone are like them. I shortened it a huge amount removing a lot more but gave a good rundown on some core stuff of what happened and how it changed me:

I was the definition of a person trapped inside and never learning how to be a person much less a human being. Think Tarzan but indoors and if he was treated like a maximum security prisoner since he was a kid just for being a completely misunderstood child nobody wanted. As I grew older I was treated like garbage by being blamed for a lot out of misunderstandings, little bad things turned into humongous problems, good things done flipped as a bad thing, and nothing at all turned into something. Resulting in solitary confinement up to adulthood. By then I believed you had to be a complete non-listening badass asshole that will get anything they want by being like that including getting women.

I was never taught how to speak to others and was never listened to by older family members who just never wanted to hear me out at all. So I did the same to others. They value money as a hierarchy for who gets treated well. So I did the same to others even though I had none just to feel better about being at the bottom of the totem pole.

Outcasting me from everybody else in the family because they thought I would cause harm when really I was staring at people because I wanted to interact/play/have fun with them. Just like that one kid spirit from Dandadan. Then just like Gaara from Naruto you accidentally broke a persons arm and then everyone fears you and what you will do.

Mother, Brother, and Father not wanting me only caring for me because they have to not because they wanted to. My separated parents both wanting daughters instead of a son. Brother surveillancing me since he hated me so I searched all kinds of things just to mess with him for decades. No grandparents. No role models. Like being stuck inside with multiple snakes that keep biting you and filling you with venom turning you into the monster they want you/ believe you to be over the years.

Hate to admit it but I almost became a complete villain. I truly thought for so many years everyone was garbage fake selfish trash from elementary school up to mid-20’s. Where everything was handed to you by being worse than everybody else. But I realized with the internet of all things overtime that it was just my family who have their own trauma that they inflicted on me and that there are many awesome people out there just by being themselves who want to have fun with others. Not everyone was like them. It was such a huge thing to realize. The thing that sucks is I do have decades of not living life since I was inside all the time gaining multiple Complex PTSD’s surviving my own family. That is a lot of catching up to do but it has made me who I am today. That I am super proud of and glad I get to have opportunities to make life better for all of us. Treating others like people and being treated like one as well which feels very new to me since I thought everyone was faking being kind.

Now the Good Part:

One thing I have come to realize now is how important what you surround yourself with transforms who you are consciously and subconsiously overtime. If anyone truly wants to change their own life then take note of everything in your life and then choose to change all of it that is not working or bad. Do not be around shitty people. Do not consume complete brain rot. Do not sit so much because it makes you lazy or at least do asian squats as that is a healthy default. Do not let others say who you are but do tell yourself who you are with affirmations.

Do care about people who will actually appreciate it and they will do the same. Do treat and love a woman like a person and she will love you as a person and as a man. Do therapy in multiple ways to see what works for you since there are all kinds of ways to do that are also free and low-cost. Do seek out community not just in-person but online too to be helpful. Do fulfill that need to belong but also leave room for others to belong as well. Do listen genuinely to others and go deeper on what gets them to wake up every day. Do love life and the ability to enjoy this planet with everybody else. That is the ultimate gift not having to be alone on this planet

Note: You want a woman/women then become your best self for you not influenced negatively by others and be someone that the community and your interest groups can be proud of.

Do reading as well and read goodgoodgood.co’s article about hope. It is the foundation for what everyone needs for an amazing life based on science

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Can’t wait to see the day when every game, or as close to 100% as possible, are made for Linux Native and Linux Compatible. We are getting there day by day

Looking forward to them building out on Pop OS and hoping they do these:

• Apps in Folders and Folders in Folders and Folders in Folders in Folders for App Launcher (For better app organization)
• Having different task bars for each workspace pinned and saved to save different workflows
• A simple quick way to add Icons to Executable Apps instead of manually finding each to add them. Maybe an app to make executables integrated right away and to simply put Icon on it by picking an icon