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  • Good question.

    26 years ago I was a volunteer community manager for a (at the time) huge fps for a big online gaming community. That involved effectively recruiting and managing a group of admins, developing a system of monitoring and anticheat reporting. In hindsight I put way too much time into that but I have difficulty limiting.

    It was tiring. 4/5 hours every night after work. No social life. All my choice.

    I don’t regret it. I did good, I think. With the team, we stopped a lot of really nasty racism and other abuse. Really helped inform and prevent aimbotting and similar cheating (went down a whole other rabbit hole and ended up writing several guides on the subject). Generally made the servers a nicer place to play. I was offered a job with the company, but I couldn’t take it - and they’ve since closed doors.

    Downsides: Death threats, doxxing attempts, a long running issue with another admin who didn’t like me firing him. The charismatic cheaters who think they can charm their way around a ban with begging and promises. The entitled players who’ve never been told “No” before and get ridiculously angry. It can be a lot.

    Now I try to help around the edges rather than be the main guy. I do manage a biggish facebook group, but it doesn’t need a lot of input.


  • It’s a lot of work, but if you’re feeling tired or overhwelmed and thinking negative thoughts about these releases - then don’t. It’s a good thing.

    These are bugs that already exist and, in some cases, are almost certainly being actively exploited by criminals and government-backed organistions both.

    Whilst we might ask that some are a little more responsible with their disclosures, overall this is a massive boost to computer security once we get over this hill of information.





  • /If/ he’s declining (I like spankinspinach’s answer) through dementia, then as someone who’s watched their very intelligent mother, their step-father and their uncle all decline with it - my answer to “how do you accept this?” is - you can’t.

    Oh, you can be rational, and sympathetic, and take steps to protect them and get them the care they need - but emotionally? Dude, it’s fucking hard. Seeing someone go through their own denial in the early stages, how they try to trick you into thinking they’re okay. As it progresses and they have to surrender, then the oblivion that inevitably follows. Watching my own mother forget every single fact about our shared memories to the point she didn’t even know who I was, then worse, when she thought I was my father. Then her regression to a little girl. (That sounds linear but it isn’t)

    If he is going down that route, then the only thing to do is try to prepare yourself for a whole world of hurt and anger. Be strong, be the parent for them, but die yourself inside.











  • I don’t disagree that some are like that, and the only reason tax laws in many countries in particular are so complicated are because of politicians squeezing in exceptions that benefit them.

    But it’s far, far from “all laws”. The quality of life and legality for average people has changed a huge amount for the better. Even in my lifetime in the UK. When I was a child, it was illegal to be homosexual. You were openly discriminated for being black, Irish, foreign, fat, old, young. Now there are laws to protect against that. My wife’s mother had to get her brother to sign the paperwork to buy a house because even in the 1950s, women couldn’t get a mortgage without a man guaranteeing it. Those are just a few examples.

    If you’re American, then yeah, maybe your system is skewed far to the rich beyond what most countries do. It’s long been the case that justice in the US doesn’t apply to the rich, but the US is not everywhere and not everything, despite what the current news cycles might tell you.