monsterpiece42

This 100%.

Sometimes you can be the hug they never got when they were a little kid and their fuckhead dad beat them instead of letting them be gay (or whatever authentic self got crushed).

I’m not saying you should put a huge amount of work into this but sometimes being kind and meeting someone where they’re at even if they’re super wrong does more to break the mold than to be a dickhead back. These people have a lot of experience doubling down to resistance, and if you surprise them with kindness it can shake up the whole setting.

That said, if you’re kind and try to teach them, and they’re still bastards/non-receptive, then move on and change the minds you can. Don’t waste your time on people that don’t want it.

Leave now. Fuck your stuff.

1. get a cab

2. get a Greyhound to an area with a better outlook.

3. look for roommates in your destination city on the ride

Right now water because I’m at work. At home… more for sure.

Having a variety of drinks nearby is a common autism/neurodivergent thing (ask me how I know). Not sure if that applies to you but there but where they are all distinctly different… Uh maybe look into it lol.

It’s a funny thing, once the whole “boundaries” thing starts to click it sort of becomes addicting as you slowly realize “oh, I can say no to things I don’t like” or “I can ask for the things I wish I had”.

Eventually that leads to the secure attachment style (still working on this one myself). But since this began to “click” I have made 3 excellent friends that I don’t feel like I need to perform around and it’s wild to me.

Are you autistic/neurodivergent by chance? I am, and I read a book called “Unmasking Autism” by Devon Price, PhD and it helped a lot with this for me. Not sure if it would mean anything to people who aren’t though.

Says in the picture https://meizen.lol/ which seems to be accurate.

I recommend mindfulness training if you can. There’s a big difference between:

• “I’m a fuckup”
• “I feel like a fuckup”
• “I notice I feel like a fuckup”
• “I see that I wanted to label myself as a fuckup”

Brains and bodies will automatically attract to higher levels of comfort or peace, so you can start to see the trends in your mental health, it will literally pull you toward fixing it. It may not be a complete fix by itself, but you’ll be surprised how much it will do for you.

You are not your illness. Would you feel empathy for a friend with anxiety? Likely yes. If you give them that grace, why not yourself too?

I hope/am glad if this stuff helps.

Ooh, yeah, that changes things a bit for sure. I have seen services for motherboard repair on eBay. Maybe that’s worth a look?

If you are as handy as you say you are, just solder in a new jack. I’m guessing this is a Lenovo Legion based on the voltage. They are replaceable. I work in a PC shop and do them all the time.

Idk if this is valuable to you but it was to me so I’ll take a shot. This is about social anxiety but can apply to other types as well imo.

I learned that my social anxiety was because I would not stick up for myself. Anxiety and “fight or flight” are physiologically the same thing, so my anxiety was my body freaking out that I may be abused in conversation with no way to defend myself.

I spent years learning healthy boundaries and effective ways to handle conflict and confrontation and in my mid 30s I finally feel like I’m crawling out of the hole.

It’s a little annoying the thing I was anxious about and avoiding (conflict, embarrassment, making a scene if necessary) was actually the thing keeping me anxious in the first place but I’m glad I’m back on the climb out now.

I wish you luck in your journey, stranger.

Excellent!

Period every couple of weeks… lmao.

For every hour put “8am block” “9am block” etc and it will completely fill their calendar.

You could use a paper planner and refuse to use the calendar too.

Hell yeah! Happy to help–it’s definitely a game changer for me and plenty of others. I wish you the best luck moving forward!

PS there is an app, and I think it’s $1. Worth throwing the dev something for their efforts imo!

I work in a computer shop and talk to regular computer users all day everyday.

The average user might know what a browser is. Most don’t know that the Internet is outside of their computer.

Real quotes like this happen everyday: “I just get on the green one to check my Google”. Translation: I check Gmail using the Edge browser.

It took me 25 minutes the other day to explain what video chat was and that FaceTime is only one kind of it, and it’s only available on Apple devices, of which an HP laptop is not.

Do not underestimate the computer illiteracy of the common person.

I understand your plight. I drive a Miata and it can be scary sometimes.

I do appreciate “road blimps” as a saying. I have historically said “road whales” but road blimps is more fun to say.

www.goblin.tools is a godsend for this type of stuff.

Here’s what it put out using the “Formalizer” tool set to “More professional”:

Our leadership team primarily consists of individuals with extensive experience, but there appears to be a gap in understanding contemporary data practices. This challenge makes it difficult to fully leverage the potential of AI in our operations.

Watch it for the plot.

Sadly almost all these comments are wrong. I work in a computer shop and we see the scam you’re talking about all the time. It happened because you unknowingly opened an ad. So you clicked on a button that looked legitimate like “download” or “next” or whatever, and that pops up full screen. The fix is a good ad blocker like ublock origin. Google’s being a piece of shit right now about ad blockers so I recommend something Firefox-based for effective ad blocking.

Life itself doesn’t get easier until you learn how to make boundaries and life the way you really are. Ask anyone that has “come out” as gay, trans, or autistic. It sucks at first but life gets better once you learn who you are and stop being sorry for it.

Cool write up!

I recommend you play TRAIL OUT, which is a spiritual successor to the best FLATOUT games. I like it a lot and would love to hear your thoughts!

I work in a PC repair shop and I run my tool stick on this way. By the way, you can just put a folder in your Ventoy and store non-iso files so you can have portable apps and so on.

• Acronis (can clone to reduced size drives unlike clonezilla which can only clone to equal or bigger)
• MemTest86 & MemTest86+ (+ is the FOSS one. Recommend both because sometimes one won’t work)
• Don’t forget that you can put other stuff in a Ventoy, not just .isos. I have shitlods of utilities in a folder beside all the .isos.
• Tons more but I just woke up for work. I will make this list much longer when I get there of I can remember to

Edit: ADHD did ADHD things. Here’s some more stuff. A lot of it is Windows-centric because that’s what we specialize in. ISOs:

• PC Unlocker (Windows password remover, paid)
• Gandalf’s Windows Preboot (similar to Hirans, but modern. Paid.)

Utilities:

• CrystalDiskInfo (SMART checks and more on SSDs)
• CrystalDiskMark (SSD benchmark)
• FastCopy (Windows copy utility. Free)
• HDTunePro (v5.00 specifically. After this, license binds to a single machine. HDD SMART checks, benchmark, secure erase, sector scans, and more.)
• OCCT (CPU, GPU, Memory, PSU, and other checks and stress tests. Top-tier tool.)
• F6 Drivers (drivers for NVMe detection on some laptops)
• Spacesniffer (visual representation of disk utilization. Similar to WinDirStat, but looks nicer/runs quicker imo. Free.)