• rumba@lemmy.zip
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    4 hours ago

    The younger kid’s chat is disabled. not allowed to friend anyone.

    The older kid has chat enabled, but is only allowed to friend people we vet.

    Computers are in an open area, chats have been keylogged, we check occasionally.

    If friends show up unanounced, or they chat where they’re not supposed to, they lose internet access long enough to regret it

    When they get old enough to have friends online, we contact the parents, make sure they’re compatible politically, theologogically, just generally not extremists and their kids have some base level of dicipline and are safety minded.

    We also semi-regularly play with them and set rules about the appropriateness of the games in relation to the kids ages. The younger one’s don’t get to play the violent ones.

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      3 hours ago

      Crazy, but it’s almost like parenting can make the environment safer!

      Lemmy likes to portray Roblox the same way the 10pm news portrayed the Internet when I was in my preteens and teen years, like it was the wild west, everyone was a predator, etc. I let my kids hop on. Their friends include me, their mom (who has an account for some reason), each other, and the kids who live across the street. They like to play the platformers, and they invite me sometimes and we play them.

      They’ll get older and they’ll go explore the internet the same way I did. I spent my adolescence and teen years eventually in AIM chat rooms, then forums, and thn Skyping random people, and somehow didn’t become a terrorist, didn’t get predated. I also am of the school of thought that you need to learn things on your own, rather than have no exposure to things that could potentially be bad.

      • I Cast Fist@programming.dev
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        2 hours ago

        Crazy, but it’s almost like parenting can make the environment safer!

        NOooooooooooo!!! We need the gubmint to impose stupid laws to protect teh children!!!