Weirdly enough. That was the secret I had for getting laid. I had a reputation for being a bit of a slut. I never had any expectation whenever I went on a date or started flirting. Mind you, I never tried to get laid. I just wanted to hang out with people I enjoyed.

But because I never expected sex, or even anything at all. It put the women I dated at ease. They knew they could be themselves and it was up to them if anything happened. They felt safe and so they often would initiate something. I had a few that ended up disappointed because nothing happened when we went out, because I just didn’t feel it.

Some of the best dates I ever had were the ones where before I met them they told me that nothing was gonna happen or they didn’t like me in that way. We still went out and we still had a great time. I loved those dates, because even though I didn’t expect anything anyway, I didn’t have that tension and we could just have a good time. I loved being friends with women who had boyfriends for the same reason. I never saw them as available so neither they or their boyfriends ever were worried about us hanging out.