As a guy, I never really felt comfortable saying those things to anyone irl.

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    2 days ago

    Same. Especially significant others (length of relationship doesn’t matter) it actively makes things worse. So I keep them to myself.

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      I am so very sorry you have to live like this.

      In general, reading a lot of these comments in this thread is just heartbreaking.

      I really think this is a cultural thing in part. I live in a progressive social democracy in Europe, and I really don’t think many see it like most people here do. I asked a couple of the more traditionally masculine/male friends and they tell me the share everything too, that they need it in a relationship especially, since they do hold stuff in from others apparently. But the very closest ones, friends and spouses that is, they need to lighten the load. And I recognize that too. Shit’s too heavy to carry alone.