As a certified bisexual I can confidently say that I feel pretty gay sometimes. Especially when I have gay thoughts or meet someone of the same sex that I find attractive.
Idk, what’s wrong with calling things what they are?
Not erasure; it’s cool. At least, it’s not a deliberate act of self-erasure IME.
Here’s a few of the many reasons bi people sometimes call themselves “gay:”
Simplicity: lots of people lack a mentally distinct category for bi and think of it as a subset of gay, so if you’re bi you learn to sometimes lean into it just to save time.
The bi-cycle: it’s not unusual for bi folk to experience predominantly same-sex attraction for a while. So they might identify more often as gay for that time, especially if they’re in a same sex relationship.
Brand recognition: bi doesn’t have the history that gay does in public discourse. We were usually just called gay. I’ve never heard a pundit talk about “the bi agenda” on daytime television, for example. So gay is sometimes preferred when we’re connecting with that lived experience.
is this some kind of bisexual erasure or is this actually fine
edit: here’s a paragraph from wikipedia that explains that I feel weird calling bisexual stuff gay:
As a certified bisexual I can confidently say that I feel pretty gay sometimes. Especially when I have gay thoughts or meet someone of the same sex that I find attractive. Idk, what’s wrong with calling things what they are?
Where can I get certification? I’d feel better if I had documentation to prove it.
Call up your local chapter of Gay Antifa, Inc.
Not erasure; it’s cool. At least, it’s not a deliberate act of self-erasure IME.
Here’s a few of the many reasons bi people sometimes call themselves “gay:”
Hope that helps ;)
It’s just easier to say gay than define what exactly you’re bi attraction is, especially when you’re highlighting experiences that are gay.