I had a friend say “btw, Sarah is trans and is now a woman”. I’m like “who the hell is Sarah?”. Turned out to be a mutual acquaintance that they had to dead name for me to identify.
“Guess Who”, supportive trans ally edition! It’s wellmeaning but god it can be frustrating. Like please just tell me so I don’t guess wrong and accidentally deadname them to their face.
Idk, I feel like saying “the one that went by Josh before” or “Josh died, long live Sarah” isn’t deadnaming. As in, to tell the other person who you are talking about so they don’t deadname them.
I’d consider a reasonable grace period to be about 3 months.
I had a friend say “btw, Sarah is trans and is now a woman”. I’m like “who the hell is Sarah?”. Turned out to be a mutual acquaintance that they had to dead name for me to identify.
“Guess Who”, supportive trans ally edition! It’s wellmeaning but god it can be frustrating. Like please just tell me so I don’t guess wrong and accidentally deadname them to their face.
Idk, I feel like saying “the one that went by Josh before” or “Josh died, long live Sarah” isn’t deadnaming. As in, to tell the other person who you are talking about so they don’t deadname them.