My male best friend and I have known each other since we were 12, and we both happen to be foreigners in the country we’re living in (I’m from Switzerland, and he’s from India). We’re super close and talk about anything and everything. My boyfriend doesn’t care about it, but he still says that my best friend is just “waiting for his turn with me.” However, he trusts me, and I’m happy, so it’s cool. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a best friend of the opposite gender. I also read a thread on another site about it, and opinions were mixed, so I’m curious what you think.

  • CaptPretentious@lemmy.world
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    6 days ago

    The problem is there’s not going to be one universal answer and that’s what a lot of people are trying to give.

    No one here has enough information to truly give feedback. No one here knows you, no one here knows your boyfriend, and no one here knows your male friend.

    Everyone here, and everyone anywhere else, is giving advice based on their own personal anecdotes or fiction.

    The problem that you will face is navigating all of this until all players’ faces/intentions are revealed. And that includes your own.

    I think I personally seen every possible combination this could play out. I don’t think there’s any statistic I could give you, I don’t think there’s any advice I could give you. Because until everyone plays their cards, you really just don’t know. What little advice I can give, don’t try to figure out everyone else’s hand and play your own how you want it to play out. If you want your boyfriend your boyfriend and your male friend to be just a friend, play towards that, make sure those boundaries are very distinct. Be truthful to yourself, and be truthful to others.