I called it quits with my boyfriend today on a video call. It had been brewing for a while, and the breakup was very amicable. Instead of feeling angry or sad, I actually feel fresh and excited. I think it’s because we got into the relationship very quickly, and I never really got the chance to explore or “play the field.”
My girlfriend of 3 years simply ghosted me. I was 22. In my naivete I attempted to call her to at least make sure she was OK for about two weeks. She never answered the phone, never returned my calls. We also had started talking about marriage as well.
It was completely debilitating. Depression, anger, sadness, and a feeling of just being completely worthless. It catastrophically affected my dating life throughout my entire 20’s. From the ages of 22 to 30, I had exactly one other girlfriend and she was more of a FWB than anything else as she was much older than me.
I did start dating around when I hit 30, but it was just one disaster after another. So much so, that I considered myself to be the common denominator and decided to just be a permanent bachelor. It was fairly obvious to me that there was something wrong with me and that’s why I was having such bad luck.
Then I met the future Mrs CanopyFlyer in 2004. We’ve been together ever since. So it turned out that yeah, all those women I dated in my early thirties were all assholes. My wife is the best human being I have ever known.
Hmmm… Maybe that just gave her the patience to deal with such a jerk as myself… NO, it was all the girls I dated that were the problem!