Maybe I’m just too picky, but if the actor isn’t “my type” or I’m not attracted to him, I won’t enjoy the video. I have favorite actors (Jmac, Tommy Pistol, Ken Matsumoto, Charles Dera, Tyler Nixon, etc.), and a lot of the time I specifically look for videos with them instead of something new or random.

I’m curious what it’s like for you.

  • Velma@lemmy.today
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    1 hour ago

    I don’t think our situation falls into poly-sexual since it’s usually one night stand type of situations though.

    Monogamish fits my relationship and it’s been a term in use for decades at this point.

    • Lumisal@lemmy.world
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      1 hour ago

      I’m polyamorous and none us three would do that. It’s still a closed relationship - one night stands break that.

      Y’all are definitely polysexual. It’s just a semi-open type rather than fully open like swingers.

      • Velma@lemmy.today
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        1 hour ago

        polysexual

        Polysexual individuals are those who are attracted to people of multiple genders. Notably, the prefix “poly” means many.

        People who identify as polysexual often use that word because it suggests a greater variety of sexual orientations than traditional gender binaries of male and female, or hetero- and homosexual. Each person will have their own specific preferences when it comes to who they are attracted to.

        Isn’t that an attraction to all genders? Why are you so hellbent on defining my relationship boundaries?

        • Lumisal@lemmy.world
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          1 hour ago

          Last I checked that was pansexual. Idk where you got that definition though.

          Just saying, the way you describe it comes off like the “no homo” guys is all 😅

          • Velma@lemmy.today
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            1 hour ago

            I honestly just searched for it because I have never heard the term polysexual applied in this way. I also wasn’t trying to imply that polyamorous people engage in one night stands and casual sex, either, but you read into that as well.

            I’m bisexual, I’ve been involved in the kink, poly, and LGBT+ community in my area for a long time. I wasn’t trying to “no homo” anything, I just prefer using the term monogamish to describe my current relationship because that describes it really well:

            First coined by legendary sex columnist Dan Savage, “monogamish” refers to a relationship style wherein mostly monogamous couples choose to have extra-relational sexual experiences, often sparingly and with strict boundaries that only allow for non-monogamous activity under very specific circumstances.