I experience Lemmy as a reflection of many of the problems in the world; there seems to be little effort to understand and respect different viewpoints. Instead of being curious about opinions one disagrees with, the community often feels almost aggressive. People end up in their own trenches. What about trying to be more open and curious about our differences instead?
Apparently we believe in freedom of speech—so long as the speech is something we agree with…
Vegans who treat it like a religion are difficult to be around. Vegans who treat it like a personal choice, are not.
That’s true of any life choice though. People get offended when other people don’t make the same choices or have the same beliefs, because they feel in attacks of invalidates them as a person.
I mean, I don’t cheat in relationships and I am monogamous. But for many people that’s a controversial statement that I have had a ton of pushback on because it makes them feel attacked if they are cheaters or polyamorous. Usually informing me how ‘ignorant’ I am, or how ‘judgemental’ I am… for simple express my own rules for myself.
a lot of ppl think that when i say “i’m vegan”, i’m saying “u should be too”. i’ve never told anyone they should be vegan.
Maybe, but I’ve met plenty of vegans who scream in your face about it. And they give a bad name to everyone else, like any extremists do.
I also am biased because I dated a vegan woman for a year who constantly whined about it, and would eat meat, and then cry about what a bad awful vegan she was and if only I was vegan too I could show her the ‘way’. It was utterly bizarre.
So frankly, I kind of don’t want to deal with vegans in my life ever again given those experiences. Just like I don’t interact with people who have MBAs.
im sorry for ur experience :( we’re not all like that but obs ur not gonna hear about the ones that aren’t annoying… cuz they aren’t being annoying about it
Yep. I bet many people I have hung out with who are chill and cool are vegans. They just didn’t make it their entire life’s purpose and personality.
listen, veganism is inherently a criticsm of anyone who isn’t vegan. People pick up on that and don’t like it.
You’re just going to have to accept that if you’re a vegan. Moaning about it makes it worse.
pls be joke 😭