• atcorebcor@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    What’s holding you back from being the person they’d date?

    (Btw there is some good advice in that question that can help you identify what fears and procrastination that keeps you away from what you want to be, but there’s also a potential trap in determining your worth by external factors)

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      3 days ago

      Well, the whole thing is premised on a cognitive distortion in the first place. I don’t know what kind of person they would date.

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        2 days ago

        Yes also that, but reducing it to “they could be into anything, and there’s an equal chance just like everyone else that theyd be into me” is also a cognitive distortion right?