Suggestion (Wild Ass guessing):

Parent: Never intended to hurt child, only wants „the best“ for Child. (At least their interpretation of the best)

Also Parent: Hurts Child because „the best“ is in fact against Childs needs an Child is caught between Parents intentions and their own interest.

Child: Never know’s when Parent will start a triggering conversation out of nowhere an is constantly distressed by Parents presence.

Edit: I think it’s difficult if you always knew your child’s needs better than they do when they were still small and suddenly they develop their own idea of life and it differs a lot from your own ideals. I hope I‘ll know if my kids are doing something actually stupid or just something I haven’t thought of or don’t like.