Because I keep overhearing my mom trying to do this stuff for my older brother so I’m just wondering about other cultures… (My family emigrated from China)
Like I constantly hear that topic being mentioned in the livingroom… like phone calls, WeChat voice messages…
My mom keeps telling my older brother to “lose weight” and like nagging him about stuff…
So yea, I can’t help but to also wonder about this aspect of life…
My parents are arrainged marrige… they just got introduced by… um… someone (as in family/friend got involved and arrainged for them to meet) then they talked and were okay with each other so they just settled down and got married… then my older brother and I came into existence…
So there’s that…
Also: Do people actually just use Dating Apps in the west? Like its a corpo algorithm… but then again having parents involved is also kinda weird ngl…
(Honestly this whole relationship stuff is just so foreign to me… in movies and tv, its almost always portrayed as a voluntary meet, not dating apps, not parent matchmaking… they just happened to bump into each other in the real world and then fall in love… and happily ever after…)
Edit: Also I heard my mom talking on WeChat trying to introduce someone that’s like I assume that’s her friend/acquaintance’s unmarried adult child to another of her friend/acquaintance’s adult child who is also unmarried…
I think arranged marriage is more of a “just want a reliable life partner + probably children” type of thing and less of a “true love” type of thing…
My parents are kinda of just partners type of thing… (like I don’t see the mainstream media “omg we are soo in love” type of stuff in them…) I don’t even think they fuck (besides those two times to procreate), never saw them kiss, or hold hands, or hug… not sure if this is a cultural thing or a lack of romantic love thing
For long period of time when I was a kid, I would sleep in between my parents on their bed… there’s no way they could’ve fucked and they are busy with work during the day…
Like… idk what even is their relationship lol…
Mom threatened divorce a few times when I was a kid (she was the main source of income btw, the “breadwinner”), but they never divorced so there’s that…