Because I keep overhearing my mom trying to do this stuff for my older brother so I’m just wondering about other cultures… (My family emigrated from China)
Like I constantly hear that topic being mentioned in the livingroom… like phone calls, WeChat voice messages…
My mom keeps telling my older brother to “lose weight” and like nagging him about stuff…
So yea, I can’t help but to also wonder about this aspect of life…
My parents are arrainged marrige… they just got introduced by… um… someone (as in family/friend got involved and arrainged for them to meet) then they talked and were okay with each other so they just settled down and got married… then my older brother and I came into existence…
So there’s that…
Also: Do people actually just use Dating Apps in the west? Like its a corpo algorithm… but then again having parents involved is also kinda weird ngl…
(Honestly this whole relationship stuff is just so foreign to me… in movies and tv, its almost always portrayed as a voluntary meet, not dating apps, not parent matchmaking… they just happened to bump into each other in the real world and then fall in love… and happily ever after…)
Edit: Also I heard my mom talking on WeChat trying to introduce someone that’s like I assume that’s her friend/acquaintance’s unmarried adult child to another of her friend/acquaintance’s adult child who is also unmarried…
No. I have dated people who used matchmaking services.
They were horrible people.
I’ve also dated some Indian women who made it very clear they’d never take me seriously because their parents would disapprove, but they’d fuck me casually in the meantime. I declined.
The issue with modern romance is that there is less and less of shared common culture and everyone is living in their social media silos. I used to have things in common with women I met, but now I have absolutely have nothing in common with them because they are living in a totally different universe and we have no common beliefs, interests, or traditions by which we can form any social bond. Like, every fact of my life and my lifestyle offends and upsets them because they are only looking for people who are the mirror image of themselves and their lifestyle. Literally was on a date two weeks ago and everything i said she made a stinkface because in her universe all that mattered was her job and vacation travel destinations, and she thought I was weird for having a life outside of my job and didn’t care much about destination travel.