Because I keep overhearing my mom trying to do this stuff for my older brother so I’m just wondering about other cultures… (My family emigrated from China)
Like I constantly hear that topic being mentioned in the livingroom… like phone calls, WeChat voice messages…
My mom keeps telling my older brother to “lose weight” and like nagging him about stuff…
So yea, I can’t help but to also wonder about this aspect of life…
My parents are arrainged marrige… they just got introduced by… um… someone (as in family/friend got involved and arrainged for them to meet) then they talked and were okay with each other so they just settled down and got married… then my older brother and I came into existence…
So there’s that…
Also: Do people actually just use Dating Apps in the west? Like its a corpo algorithm… but then again having parents involved is also kinda weird ngl…
(Honestly this whole relationship stuff is just so foreign to me… in movies and tv, its almost always portrayed as a voluntary meet, not dating apps, not parent matchmaking… they just happened to bump into each other in the real world and then fall in love… and happily ever after…)
Edit: Also I heard my mom talking on WeChat trying to introduce someone that’s like I assume that’s her friend/acquaintance’s unmarried adult child to another of her friend/acquaintance’s adult child who is also unmarried…
So many generalisations and a complete lack of understanding of there being other valid ways of conducting a relationship beyond what you’ve experienced yourself or seen with your own eyes.
True love is like any other feature of a relationship, only as enduring as the health of that relationship. That takes work, communication, and many other aspects too numerous to list here. It is complex and not easy to define. But it can endure just fine.
If it makes you feel better to think that relationships based on true love don’t last, by all means continue in that fantasy. But it is a fantasy and I think it says more about your fear of what you’re missing as someone who’s likely stuck in an arranged relationship, or stuck in a culture where that is expected of you, than it does about how enduring true love can be.
True love as you defined it is not what true love as the movies show it looks like.