It’s not an accessibility issue, it’s an immediate circumstance issue. My wife just wants me to hold off until we get pregnant with one more kid. Appreciate it, though!
Technically yes, but it’s not as simple as going to the doctor and having them put a baby into a womb.
It is insanely expensive. It also requires weeks or months of daily injections (sometimes multiple daily, sometimes subq sometimes IM) for my wife, a lot of discomfort as her hormones are altered to unnatural levels to force her ovaries to swell up and overproduce eggs, a surgical procedure to extract eggs. All of that brings no guarantee for a successful extraction, viable embryo, or successful transfer/implementation; so, we may have to do it all again meaning I still would probably be putting HRT off until we get a successful result.
Last time we did it we only got a handful of eggs and only one of those produced a viable embryo. I wouldn’t want to put all my remaining eggs (sperm?) into that basket.
My wife accepts me for who I am, she’s sticking with me, and she’s on board with HRT. I think her request is more than reasonable considering how so many other spouses react to their partner coming out. I’m happy to wait a bit longer if that means she can avoid taking on all that additional discomfort and financial stress. This is what we’ve agreed to and I’m good with it.
Understandable, it rocks to hear that she’s so supportive :)
a few additional thoughts on procedure & hrt
yeah, it’s unfair imo, now that i realise. the procedure differs so much depending on whether the one freezing their reproductive cells has sperm or egg cells.
on the regard of HRT, once you’ll do that, my only word of recommendation is to avoid spray (as it’s ineffective).
It’s not an accessibility issue, it’s an immediate circumstance issue. My wife just wants me to hold off until we get pregnant with one more kid. Appreciate it, though!
Wouldn’t it be a possibility to freeze your reproductionary cells? There’s ICSI and IVF, right?
Technically yes, but it’s not as simple as going to the doctor and having them put a baby into a womb.
It is insanely expensive. It also requires weeks or months of daily injections (sometimes multiple daily, sometimes subq sometimes IM) for my wife, a lot of discomfort as her hormones are altered to unnatural levels to force her ovaries to swell up and overproduce eggs, a surgical procedure to extract eggs. All of that brings no guarantee for a successful extraction, viable embryo, or successful transfer/implementation; so, we may have to do it all again meaning I still would probably be putting HRT off until we get a successful result.
Last time we did it we only got a handful of eggs and only one of those produced a viable embryo. I wouldn’t want to put all my remaining eggs (sperm?) into that basket.
My wife accepts me for who I am, she’s sticking with me, and she’s on board with HRT. I think her request is more than reasonable considering how so many other spouses react to their partner coming out. I’m happy to wait a bit longer if that means she can avoid taking on all that additional discomfort and financial stress. This is what we’ve agreed to and I’m good with it.
Understandable, it rocks to hear that she’s so supportive :)
a few additional thoughts on procedure & hrt
yeah, it’s unfair imo, now that i realise. the procedure differs so much depending on whether the one freezing their reproductive cells has sperm or egg cells.
on the regard of HRT, once you’ll do that, my only word of recommendation is to avoid spray (as it’s ineffective).