Background:

I’m in my 40s and I’ve always sort of beaten myself up over not being an avid reader. I go through phases where I read a bunch, sometimes I’ll finish a book in a months time, sometimes start a book and forget it, sometimes it seems like I go literally years without really getting into any book at all. But I still accumulate them.

Because of how important reading is and now I “fail” to prioritize it, I’ve always found myself in a poor relationship with reading. I feel this artificial pressure to read things that are only important and will somehow make me more useful. I feel this artificial pressure to start one book and read it to the end. I feel this artificial pressure to become a changed person by fully investing every bit of info from every book.

I’ve been learning that these pressures are untenable.

I’ve also noticed that I partake in all kinds of things without the same expectations: tv shows, games, podcasts, media and news outlets, social media, etc.

Right now I have 6 books that I am actively reading, and I am trying to remember that it’s for enjoyment and not some high level goal. Someone told me if I read 10 pages a day I would finish about 10 books a year. I found this so encouraging.

Taking the pressure off of reading has really helped me get more productive at reading, and I think it will help me convert my habit into a truly fruitful one.

So now I ask you:

  • What are your reading habits like?
  • What do you like to read?
  • What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?
  • Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?
  • What else?
  • Libb@jlai.lu
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    9 days ago

    What else?

    My only advice would be these two:

    1. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to start and to not finish a book. It’s fine and it’s legit. There is no moral obligation on your part as a reader to finish a book you don’t enjoy. Just close it and try another one.
    2. Don’t be afraid to reopen a book you did not like before. We all change. So do our preferences. It’s not guaranteed (decades later, and after many repeated attempts, I still do not enjoy reading Marcel Proust) but some of your taste will indeed change with time. A few of the books I cherish today (in my 50s) were among the ‘wtf is that thing?’ the first time I tried to read them decades ago. Like, really.

    What are your reading habits like?

    • I read at every single opportunity I have. I never waste my time scrolling on my phone or watching TV (we don’t have a TV set). For me, doom scrolling is not even a temptation as I always have a (much more interesting) book with me. And when I don’t read and still don’t want to ‘waste’ my time looking at my phone, I will sketch in my pocket notebook instead. No matter where I am.
    • I read at any time of the day/evening/night. I have no fix work-schedule (I’m my own boss).
    • There are books waiting for me to grab them everywhere at our place. I mean not neatly stored in a bookshelf but lying in places where I will see them (my spouse is OK with that). I just checked, there are four books (one essay, one novel, a children book and a how-to guide) just here on my desk. Plus two dictionaries. And my personal diary which is another book I regularly re-read.
    • I always have more than one book started at the same time. So I can change book if I don’t feel like reading one in particular.
    • When I don’t want to read, I don’t read. That’s not a job. I very much like going out for long walks too and those will often take precedence over reading (but I will have a pocket book and a sketchbook with me, just in case).
    • I recently quit reading ebooks almost completely to read printed books (want to know why? check the link to my blog in my profile, there are three posts talking about that choice).
    • I always take notes while reading, no matter the type of book. I carry a bunch of A6 index cards within each book and a ballpoint pen. Cards on which i write the page number and a short note/comment/quote. I keep all those notes organized in a box which later helps me easily and quickly go through all what I read to find whatever I am looking for and also often find new ideas while doing so (wanna know more about that card thing? Search what is a Zettelkasten, aka a fancy German word to describe a box with a large stack of somewhat organized but not too organized index cards in it, it’s like a second brain, just better).

    What do you like to read?

    Essays, poetry, novels, phylosophy, history, short stories, sociology,… Younger, I used to read a lot of plays (Racine, Shakespeare, Godot,…). I read in French and in English (starting to read in Spanish too, but I still have a lot to learn). I love all eras, from antiquity to very contemporary works. I like reading children books a lot too, even though I’m 50+ and my spouse and I have no children. Some of those books are pure masterpieces, text as well as illustrations.

    The thing that may help you get into reading more (beside not forcing yourself to finish one in particular) is to try to widen your horizon by trying stuff you would not normally read.

    Say you like fantasy, ok, try horror instead. Or scifi. Or historical romance. Or essays. And so on. Just keep in mind you’re trying it, don’t force it if you don’t like it. To save money, use your public library: it’s probably free ;)

    What kind of stage of life are you in, and how does that affect it?

    Not sure to understand the question.

    50+ I now need glasses to read. Beside that… I still try to read widely and to never let anyone’s expectations about what some dude like me (my age, my genre, race, social situation, whatever) is supposed to be reading and enjoying.

    Have you made any changes, positive or negative, to your reading habits?

    Positive: like I said, recently I quit reading ebooks and went back to good old paper. Zero regret, quite the contrary: I’m more tranquil. Once again, feel free to check my little (and seldom updated) blog if you’re curious to know more about that ;)

    Negative: I sometimes read less, out of sheer laziness. I always regret it.