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  • razzazzika@lemmy.zip
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    9 hours ago

    Thanks for the constructive feedback instead of just assuming I was a bad person. I appreciate it.

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      9 hours ago

      My pleasure.

      You and grew up in completely different cultures, even if both are considered “western”. We both are a product of how we grew up.

      If someone would accuse me, as a german, of stareing, I’d be baffled, because for us it is normal not to look away after a split second. We also like to say things directly and don’t like waste time with small talk and chit chat in some situations. Many think this makes us cold.

      And… you obviously know about the darkest parts of german history. I was born 24 years after the third Reich was defeated and 80 years later this time still haunts this country. That’s why we sometimes react a bit “twitchy” if people use expressions that either were used by the fascists or sound like they would have liked them. I hope you understand my first reaction even better now.

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        8 hours ago

        Yes I know how sensitive a subject it is.

        Also, I too do not like small talk or mindless chit chat. If I talk, it is is in depth and with a passion about the topic.

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          2 hours ago

          You know the stereotypes about germans, no humor, stare at you, love their rules and laws, cold and pedantic, wait for the green light on a pedestrian crossing at 3 in the morning, but go pedal to the metal the moment their Porsche/Benz/BMW enters the Autobahn… and we drink beer all day and eat Sauerkraut.

          :)

          Seriously, the only Sauerkraut I really like is the batch my Dad makes every year in autumn and I don’t drink beer.