Part 2: if you were the parent, would you feel it would be ethical to keep them alive?

  • OhVenus_Baby@lemmy.ml
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    As someone with half that list of health issues. I struggle everyday. Most people even family do not care they can leave, go eat, live life. I cannot. Nobody cares until it’s them. They will never understand, have the compassion, empathy, respect to even try to help you, not even to clean up after themselves for things that make you sick, (gluten issues and they leaves pizza crumbs and greasy pans all over counters and stove). Plenty of sorries to help their emotions feel better though. Nothing for you though. Not money to help with medical things. Not care to keep themselves in order. People do the bare minimum and the world is fine with it.

    I don’t want to live like that, not as a parent, myself, or my family members. Shits hard. I don’t want to die or be dead so I’m not looking to OFF myself but fuck its hard to get through each day. It takes a solid, hard headed, self disciplined, never give up attitude to live like this. Yet you still fail to thrive and have any chance of health.

    • lazynooblet@lazysoci.al
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      I am sorry you don’t have the support you deserve, even from family. That must make a difficult life even more so.

      My wife has cerebral palsy and in the last 5 years has developed chronic back pain that has taken away what little mobility and dignity she had.

      It has been upsetting to watch her decline. Doctors seemingly unable to alleviate her symptoms, but we keep trying.

      I am head over heals in love with her. The disability doesn’t change that. I am there for her every need, day or night. We appreciate each other and spend all our time together. I wish you could find someone to do the same for you.

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        A deep bow in admiration combined with a sad hug. Thank you for staying and not be the “typical dude” who just vanishes the moment it becomes less easy. I’m sure she’s also full of love for you. I wish you all the strength to remain the strong one to make her life suck as little as possible.

        Also seconding your point. This dude’s family is just toxic shit.