Asking for a friend

  • YappyMonotheist@lemmy.world
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    10 hours ago

    I assume the vast majority of women would think it’s a gigantic, flashing “red flag” (if you claim to be straight, at least), but in Western online spaces you’ll probably find a good amount of women that will find it hot or “progressive”.

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        2 hours ago

        It’s a mixture of (probably well-meaning) performative morality (“don’t say that, everyone loves everyone and what they do. Please, my heart hurts!”) and wishful thinking/utter confusion. 🤷😅

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        4 hours ago

        Despite the down votes, this is the real answer to your question. No the vast majority will not find it appealing. You would be highly selectively filtering your audience. The answer to why, is culture.

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          “The vast majority” really depends on the social space/context you are in. Middle of Kansas or Alabama? Yeah. Portland or Seattle or another place like that? Might be a majority or might not be, depends on the part of town probably.

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            Yes, the more specific you filter the community towards the niche culture, the higher the probability. But to get there you’d probably have to filter down to specific sub-communities in specific parts of specific towns. I feel it’s intellectually safe to call the rest a vast majority overall.

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          The “real” answer is not pulling him down like that.

          There’s no unified majority. There are many millions of people.

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          10 hours ago

          At some point, women started wearing trousers. Today this is very common and no one would link that to their sexuality or gender alignment

          My point is that maybe we are at that point now, just for men to wear whatever they feel is cool

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            10 hours ago

            Exactly what I was thinking. Never in my life have I seen my mother wear a skirt. She wears pants because she likes them and that’s perfectly valid. Style is a personal choice and I don’t understand why people think it’s related to sexuality or gender identity. Thank you.

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            10 hours ago

            Everyone wears “what they feel is cool”, wearing skirts and crop tops shows people you think that’s cool, and that informs people of who you are as a person to a certain degree (the kind of man who likes wearing skirts and crop tops).

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            10 hours ago

            Of course you’re free, and no one is legally allowed to lock you up or restrict you in whatever way to stop you from wearing crop tops and skirts, lol, that’s not the conversation here. And I’d rather you said “it’s not immoral for me to dress like a girl” than going for the “I do what I want, you’re not my dad!” line, at least it shows more maturity.

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              You’re not one to decide another’s life, or to determine morality. What is moral depends on the time and the person.

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                Did I put chains on him? A gun to his head for him to do my bidding? Also, that final statement seems like you’re the one “defining morality”! 🫩

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              10 hours ago

              What is the conversation here? Also, I don’t dress like a girl. I dress like me. And I wasn’t ever concerned with morality.

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                10 hours ago

                Which members of society overwhelmingly wear skirts and crop tops? Why do you think you’re asking this question?! 🙄 And the conversation is not about whether you can or cannot do it, but what that says about you as a self-proclaimed heterosexual man and whether women as a whole will view it and the attitudes and ideology behind it positively or negatively.