• EldritchFemininity@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 days ago

    So Warl0k3 had a pretty good conversation on the matter, but as the original asker I just wanted to add something.

    In this regard, Blahaj is no more authoritarian than a lesbian bar. That’s the analogy I use to describe how Blahaj is run - it’s like a gay/lesbian bar. It’s not a place meant to be an open floor of debate or something, it’s a place for trans people made by trans people. Blahaj is supposed to be a place where people can get away from the “just asking questions” or having to defend their existence constantly like everywhere else on the internet and real life. And just like a lesbian bar, if you bother the clientele or staff, you can and will be thrown out.

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      2 days ago

      Can’t the same be said for the usual suspects like lemmygrad, hexbear, .ml…?

      Lemmy is meant to be used to discuss with people. When you try to enforce your rules outside, you go too far.

      I still don’t think it’s a great instance to point people to. Not with an admin actively silencing ‘opponents’, defaming and spreading misinformation

      Your defense is basically “it’s meant to be authoritarian”

      And just like a lesbian bar, if you bother the clientele or staff, you can and will be thrown out.

      A bar is not a forum. Lemmy’s goal is to discuss and share things. If only a specific point of view is allowed, it ceases to be a “safe place” and becomes a circlejerk. Like it if you want, I find it dumb and will never recommend biased or opinionated instances if they don’t allow other opinions.

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        How do I put this, your belief of what Lemmy and a forum are intended for are…misguided? Not quite the word I’m looking for, but close.

        A forum is a 3rd space, like a bar, a restaurant, a community garden, a local store that runs tabletop games, or even a park. A gathering space for people to intermingle. But that doesn’t mean that a forum has to allow everything. 3rd spaces still have rules to be followed. When you enter Blahaj, you agree to abide by the house rules. And some of those rules are there specifically to stop sealioning behavior, which trans people are subjected to endlessly everywhere else on the web and looks exactly like this:

        Inherently transphobic? You’re just assuming and extrapolating

        Don’t assume it’s malicious, they might just not know. Aren’t we here to discuss? Being wrong doesn’t mean I should be banned, but I should be corrected. Closing debates when I’m respectful isn’t useful to anyone

        I just like to question things, not take and accept them just because the person is concerned by the topic, especially if they have a sensibility or opinion on the subject

        There are places where those kinds of questions and debates are okay (as long as they’re sincere and not malicious), but Blahaj is designed to be a space where trans people can get together and not be bombarded by those sorts of questions endlessly.