I’m not sure how to even ask this. What I mean is that if you’re a guy who’s only attracted to other guys, then it’s obvious those are the people you’re going to be dating as well. But how could I, as a bisexual man who’s only dated women in the past, know whether my interest in men is only sexual or if it could be romantic too?
The reason I’m asking is that since I’m now single again, I’m wondering if I should try dating men just to see what that’s like and maybe learn something about myself. I feel like the two most plausible outcomes are either that I discover my romantic attraction is limited to women, or it opens my eyes to why some things have been such a struggle in my past relationships - and maybe I should’ve been dating men all along.
The thing is, I’ve never had a crush on a guy before or noticed any other signs that a relationship with one could actually work. I’ve had occasional dreams of that sort, but usually there’s been something sexual about them. I can only think of one time I felt mild butterflies around a guy I found really attractive.
I don’t know. I guess I’m just worried that if I give it a shot, I might not feel anything more than what I feel toward my male friends. In the worst case, they might develop feelings for me, and then I’d have to break their heart - and I hate the thought of that.
Bro, just get on Grindr or go to a gay bar and have fun sucking dick/getting your dick sucked. “Dating” doesn’t need to be this huge thing - just show up, be yourself, and have a good time. As long as you arent a total asshole, tell people how you’re feeling and what you are looking for, it’ll be fine. Yeah, maybe you’ll break somebody’s heart. But as long as both people are adults about it, it isn’t a terrible, world-ending catastrophe. Its just ywo people who, for one reason or another, arent compatible.
I’m looking for a relationship, not sucking dick.
Sounds like you are trying to understand yourself, which requires experimentation in the real world with other people - not worrying about it with disembodied voices on the internet. Hence - just go fuck around and find out.