• 鳳凰院 凶真 (Hououin Kyouma)@sh.itjust.works
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    People’s Republic of China.

    Was born there, probably ain’t ever going back.

    So much conservatism, patriarchy, toxic masculinity, ableism especially against people with mental illness or intellectual disabilities, even if the condition was mild.

    Massive government corruption, inadequate safety regulations, when it come to the internet and press, those get censored, can’t even have fun watching foreign media.

    Complete lack of understanding for people suffering with depression nobody take it seriously, spritualism is applied to medical issues.

    Hukou system limiting the very little rights you have. (I had a rural Hukou and that sucks)

    To top it all off, this is a country that have rejected me for being the 2nd child born in my family (during the One Child Policy). Legal papers were denied, the government effectively refused to ackowledge my existence and demanded/extorted a large amount of money, a “fine” they call it. My parent’s didn’t have it so it took several years of saving up for it, before I could get legal papers and legal recognition of my existence. (See: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heihaizi)

    When I was a kid, I didn’t know it at the time, but when my mother explained my origins, I feel like society basically just rejected me. An outcast, an anomoly, something that shouldn’t have existed. All for the sin of existing without a government permission-slip.

      • You can, but there are rights being limited.

        For example, even tho I was born in Guangzhou, I was still treated as though I was born in my father’s village in terms of Hukou (the actual place of birth on the birh certificate would be with Guangzhou as the birthplace, but that doesn’t matter to Hukou).

        Even though my parents work in Guangzhou (广州), I couldn’t attend public school in Guangzhou, and my parents have to pay for a separate, privately-run “school”, which according to my mother, was worse than the officially government run public schools. But they still had the same “patriotic education” (This “patriotic education” would be considered indoctriction by most westerners). Same with my older brother.

        If my family hadn’t left China, my mother told me I was gonna have to go back to somewhere in Taishan (That’s 台山,not 泰山) to continue beyond primary school because of there was supposely problems with getting enrolled in a Guangzhou middle school / highschool or something.

        So like you’re basically treated as immigrants… sort of…

        (I don’t know all the details of Hukou, I might ask my parents about it later.)

        But even in the US, for example, even undocumented immigrant children (at least before the current admin, idk about now) could still enroll in public school, meanwhile China is denying their own citizens from attending public school, just because their ancestry is different. You could be born in Guangzhou and live your entire life there, and still have problems with your rights. It’s like countries within a country.

        P.S. I remember my mother said she was a teacher before giving birth to me, but becuase she violated the One Child Policy, she can’t ever get any government-related jobs ever again, that includes being a teacher, or possibly even working at state-owned factory/warehouse.

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          9 hours ago

          That’s very interesting. I heard it could be harder to change your hukou in some instances than it is to change citizenships.

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        US, got here in 2010s. Then, the ironic twist of fate, we got the 2017-2021 authoritarian test run, and now the 2025-ongoing shitshow lolol. Out of one hell, into another 🫠. Autocracy, here we go again!

        I have hopes tho, Americans are rebellious and the recent protests keeps me hopeful. At least its not total apathy as with people in mainland China.

        I’ve been considering moving to: Canada, Australia, and maybe Singapore; these have high levels of ethnic Chinese, which make intergration a lot easier, if I ever decide to try it, its all English speaking countries. (Thought about Taiwan, I can speak Mandarin, a bit, haven’t spoken it for over a decade; traditional Chinese is harder to read, I’d have to re-learn the language; but the biggest problem is that it’s a potential warzone so nope, don’t wanna get bombarded within like a decade)

        But, anyways: Too depressed and tired to actually do the whole learning about a country from scratch thing again. Moving to another country is just an idea, the acual exexution takes a lot of energy, a lot of paperwork, it drains your brainpower. Probably just sit and wait this out, hopefully the spirit of American rebellion doesn’t die out. Need this flame to keep going.

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      Why do people shit on the sick and disabled, but revere doctors?

      When the former is the only reason for doctors to exist in the first place. Shouldn’t we laud sick/disabled people in a sense for allowing an entire respected field to exist?

      If you’re going to shit on them, then shit on the people who are trying to help them, too. Be consistent.

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      You are a miracle. Bless you for existing. Mother Earth knows no borders, she knows only life and rebirth. You are life. You are her. Together, we are the Earth. ❤️ You are not unwanted.

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      Wow. I always thought if id been born in China that would be one of the worst developed places to be. Thats unfortunate but glad you got out

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        13 hours ago

        Would probably depend where in China. I think you’re better in China than in a lot of African countries or North Korea.