• makeshiftreaper@lemmy.world
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    22 hours ago

    Typical advice for this is talk about FORD:

    • Family
    • Occupation
    • Relationships
    • Dreams

    and avoid RAPE:

    • Religon
    • Abortion
    • Politics
    • Economics

    FORD is talking about the people they love, where they spend most of their time, and what they’re excited about. RAPE is a list of topics that are frequently contentious and that people are bad at having productive conversations about (also don’t talk about rape)

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      21 hours ago

      The version I heard was Recreation rather than Relationships. Find out what they do for fun, whether it’s gardening, concerts, or disc golf.

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        21 hours ago

        I’m sure there’s multiple versions, that’d be good too. It’s mostly just getting people to talk about things they like in their life