Its meant as a broad question as i would like some diverse input.
I have an “unfit” and rigid ruleset of how i define friends and how someone can be one.
It roots in my insecurities and want a starting point to redefine it in a healtier way.

  • 鳳凰院 凶真 (Hououin Kyouma)@sh.itjust.works
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    22 hours ago

    I used to think I have “friends”, but now I just retroactively classified them as “acquaintances” instead. So I never really truely had a “friend” in that sense.

    I used to think “friend” just means regular conversations and willingness to talk, now I feel like I’m just projecting the feeling of friendship, like… sure, I call them “friend” but is that feeling ever mutual? Probably not. Since I don’t even talk to them outside of school.

    Probably the willingness to regularly meet and spend time together outside of the place we originally met (eg: school/workplace), would be considered “friendship”, otherwise, its really just a close acquaintance. So yea, I’ve had close acquaintances, never “friends”

    Or maybe I just have trust issues with my older brother betraying what I thought was like our friendship and now I feel afraid to call someone my “friend”.