I kinda just realized I never really talked much to parents besides the occasional mentions about school or news…
Which is likely why my first language kinda never developed beyond like 1st grade lexicon, since I use English outside of home, and also its the most common language on the internet most websites and media is English, its the lingua franca of the world…, so I never really got to use my first language much, not much conversations. Or perhaps its the other way around? Maybe the language barrier that caused me to not really able to have a conversation with my parents in the first place. Idk.
So… yea… relationship-wise nowadays… not that close… the reason is kinda self-evident lol
Rarely as a kid, but I pushed for adult discussions when I got older because otherwise I would never talk to them and it was clear they wanted to talk to me.
They only wanted to talk about inconsequential things, which is boring so no thanks.
So whenever I talked to my mom or dad after like 25 or something, I resolved to only talk about things I was actually interested in, and to cut short in consequential conversations and steer back to interesting topics, things I normally didn’t talk to my parents about (drugs, relationships, philosophy), and eventually one topic or another got their attention (my mom told me about smoking pot in high school), and I continue trying to be as honest as I could with them because I don’t want a relationship with someone comprised entirely of small talk, but I don’t want to ignore my parents either.
I definitely think there’s a correlation between how you’re brought up and your relationship with your parents now, my parents implicitly taught me not to bring up consequential life topics to them as a child, and I had to recognize and actively fight against that terrible lesson as an adult in order to have any sort of mature, human relationship with either of them.