I kinda just realized I never really talked much to parents besides the occasional mentions about school or news…
Which is likely why my first language kinda never developed beyond like 1st grade lexicon, since I use English outside of home, and also its the most common language on the internet most websites and media is English, its the lingua franca of the world…, so I never really got to use my first language much, not much conversations. Or perhaps its the other way around? Maybe the language barrier that caused me to not really able to have a conversation with my parents in the first place. Idk.
So… yea… relationship-wise nowadays… not that close… the reason is kinda self-evident lol
Relatable 😆. You know how usually fathers are the head of the household and the breadwinner? In my family, my mother kinda is the matriarch lol. We immigrated to a different country and while my mother obtained citizenship but my dad kinda… 10 years after he’s eligible, still unable to learn the language to become citizen… ugh… actually kinda worried due to current political atmosphere around here (USA). Now its like 15 years, there’s a language waiver, so I hope he finally get it, because it’d be awkward to have the family separated, my previous country doesn’t do dual citizwnship so my mother and I already lost that country’s citizenship upon getting the new citizenship.
Can’t really have much deep discussions, like… even with my lexicon, I tried best to explain my political views, dude was like… “okay” like just have zero views of his own, always parrotting what the last person or social media post said. Lolol.
My mother was actually the one who helped me with learning how the money (since coins don’t have numbers on it lol) worked, helped me with learning basic English (she somehow knew a little English because of the sales job she had back in our previous country) vocabulary, and kinda… sort of… showed me how existing as a human being in society works…
But even then my mother still kinda refuse to talk politics, not surprised, that’s how people have learned to survive under authoritarianism… it becomes instinct… and now authoritarianism is kinda approaching here in the US too, lol. Almost like they predicted this and decided to stay silent.
Much less conversations about philosophy. Philosophy is just “overthinking” to them. They’d never understand free will vs determinism, presentism vs eternalism, lapalce’s demon, that sort of stuff…
Like… they’re both on the philosophy of: “It doesn’t matter of its a white cat or black cat, as long as it can catch mice”, they don’t care about politics as long as we can survive.
I basically had to learn all this politics and philosophy stuff all by myself online.