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  • I’m not saying someone changes solely because of lots of arguments. Or repeated exposure, which I agree, are more likely to cement a position if they are essentially the same argument over and over. But arguments in general add to whatever experiences eventually change someone’s mind. Just another factor.



  • Typically, no. Not in person and not online. However, winning an argument - in particular one that brings fairness or justice as a consequence - feels very rewarding. But I still don’t enjoy the actual arguing part.

    Discussing different points of view though, I don’t always consider this arguing. As long as it remains an exchange, it is pleasant. If I have to attack and defend something personal, then no.


  • I’d say it is very unlikely someone will change their mind because of an argument. But it is likely that someone will change their mind after several arguments, and some reflection. It may take years. This person may not see things the same way you do once they change, but they may change some of their views.





  • I can cook for myself alright, but I don’t impress people with my culinary skills. I’m not a fan of cooking.

    When I need to save face because there are guests, (rarely happens but it does) I do pan fried salmon and steamed vegetables. It’s very difficult to get it wrong. It’s easy to season. Looks presentable. I learned to cook the salmon from a short Gordon Ramsay video that you can find on YouTube. Practically foolproof



  • Fair conclusion, but don’t be so hard on yourself. Honestly as a native speaker these things don’t come across as “rules” for me even though of course they have rules. It’s just the natural and obvious way of using the language. And that’s something very hard to get right if you weren’t raised with that language. In other words, I’ve heard a gazillion people say so many examples of phrases in Spanish since before I have memory, that hearing or seeing something outside of the expected pattern stands out immediately, but I can’t always explain why.

    It’s unreasonable to expect ever having the same level of fluency with a language you weren’t raised with. I’ve been speaking English half my life and I still screw up sometimes.



  • Not the person you asked, but a native Spanish speaker myself. The formal way to say “excuse me” (for example to a teacher or boss, or to a stranger on the street if you wish to be polite) would be “disculpe señor/a”, or “discúlpeme señor/a”. You can also remove señor/a and simply say “disculpe” or “discúlpeme” to anyone and it will still carry the same meaning, since the verb in both cases already implies it’s about yourself.

    The informal way would be “disculpame” or “discúlpame”, although in this case adding señor/a sounds way off. You can definitely add a name though, ie, “discúlpame Shads” and that would be okay.

    Edit: as for your specific request of an adult teacher asking something to the students, that would depend a lot on the relationship they have, some teachers are distant while others get more familiar with time. I’ve seen both. By all means the formal one would always be correct. I’ve seen teachers with a usually more relaxed or casual approach revert to the formal when they are getting serious or upset.


  • Congrats, you spotted a flag! You seem a bit confused about the color. It’s red, very very red! Here is why:

    He’s angry at you. Why? Because you don’t do as he says or wants.

    He then trash talks about you. Why? Because he is angry, and wants to hurt you, but not openly on your face no no. Because if he did hurt you openly, he knows you are smart enough to never again do what he wants and as he says.

    Did you get that right? I said, He wants to hurt you

    Finally, he asks you to go be with him. Why? Well he wants you for something. But if it were to give you love and affection, he wouldn’t be trash talking about you in the first place. He just wants someone to validate him, someone he can control. Obviously. Nobody in their right mind wants someone who they say is a slut and they are angry at. Unless, of course, you can still fulfill his need for validation and control.

    Run away Don’t give this person the time of the day