“Does it matter I was trying to be nice…” Yes.
The endless march of causality would and will be there with or without out your act, and the energy equilibrium doesn’t care because it can’t, but you can.
The march of all electrons to their lowest energy orbitals isn’t your dance, and you merely pretend at comprehension of time scales not meant for you.
Choose to ameliorate your own suffering, because it matters just as little to the Universe. Take your own medicine and take it without the comforting hypocrisy.








You’d think that, but that’s part of the point and magic, and it does not necessarily add up to that point of “leave us both more stressed than ever”.
It still adds up to increasing connection, not decreasing it. The caveat is that the whole leaving room for the other person too is vital, it can’t be overwhelmingly one sided, good or ill.
The human condition includes depressive shit too, and no one is unique in capacity for suffering, only details. That’s still something to bond over.