anyone can get an amex. unless you’re talking about a platinum or black card? those have minimum spending requirements per year to keep them.

being happy and enjoying my life without worrying about inacting revenge on theoretical systems of oppression.

some people are paranoid and rig up cameras in every part of their house under the guise it will keep them secure from criminals.

what is the reason behind this? i never understood it. is the garbage supposed to raise the SEO score or something?

No, it’s 'my life is IT and i never stop working" guy, and “IT is just my job” guy.

I just order a new router on Black Friday to replace my 10 year old one. I also only console game now because PC gaming is too much of a headache. I spend my money on outdoor gear and pets, not technology. My new router is $90 bucks. I can’t fathom why I’d ever need a wifi 7 quad band router with 9Gbps of throughput for a home network, other than pure bragging rights. All my devices are like 5-10 years old and barely support wifi 6 anyway.

A couple of my co-workers are the former. They will be doing penetration testing at 2am form their home lab in the morning because they their default mode is work work work. If i’m up at 2 am i’m watching TV and snacking.

I monitor security updates, but my co-workers like get excited and ramble on anytime a new patch/attack is documented. I don’t get it. They revel in doing updates and rebuilding their VMs fresh every few weeks, I groan and clone.

neopronouns

never heard this term until today. Thanks.

I think it’s fine to say giving up competitive sports is a cost of gender transition.

Yeah, I agree. This is a take I rarely see. And it’s just… a choice lots of kids make regardless of their gender identity for lots of social or physical reasons. I’ve known people who had accidents, then pulled out of it for fear of permanent physical harm. Lots of people also would love to play, but physically are unable to due to a too much/too little body mass for that sport. You can’t be a football offensive lineman if you weigh 120lbs and are 5’2". My nephew spent years training for baseball and was very good, but he physically wasn’t large enough to be competitive, so he had to give it up.

The notion that one MUST be able to play competitive sports is so… bizarre to me. If they can compete, great. But if they are wiping the floor with their peers because of their physical advantages… they should probably be playing as a man w/ men. And that’s not unprecedented. We had a few larger/stronger women play with boys when I was growing up and everyone was cool with it.

Yes, but the thing you’re missing is how much of USA culture is tied up in sports. Including college admissions through popular team sports. This topic hits a lot broader because it’s about sports, and shitloads of money.

Hence nobody cares if there are trans people in niche sports with no money. For example, I mountain bike. Nobody cares, because mountain biking is increidbly niche and there zero money in and and there are like 13 NCAA mountain biking teams in the country… and if you win a competitive mtb race you win like $100.

But if it’s Basketball… we’re talking billions of dollars.

I come from a family of many female athletes. They aren’t anti trans or anti-religion But they are anti-trans women in women’s sports. They believe in a separate trans/non-gender category, but that’s not a solution trans-advocates want. They want trans women to be in women’s sports, and not men’s sports. (and of course, nobody cares about trans men)

Do all Asian people look the same to you too?

You can also just pick and choose what you want from each and every side, and leave what you don’t like on the table.

Like a buffet.

But people tend to get really really angry at you when you do this, and label you whatever side they hate most.

I bet you even use Windows when you use AI.

Do you like Waiting for Godot?

sex is social status for both men and women.

largely derived form the ‘worth’ of the sexual partner. low value partners are something to be ashamed of, high value ones are to be bragged about to peers.

I think when you really break down sexual behaviors and all that, there is very little difference in men vs women and sex. The major difference is the narrative they pursue and tell themselves about sex though. And very few people can separate out their behaviors from the narrative they tell themselves.

It’s also the solution that is immediate and immediately gratifying to the emotions of those who have it, who are under the impression that they can impose their ‘truth’ on others with violence and force.

yeah it’s a body dysphoria. there are lots of types of them.

maybe they mean they only argue and scream at themselves over their veganism?

I’ve dated a self-hating vegan before. She would like, get drunk, have a piece of cheese, and then go into a self loathing spiral.

I think sports governing bodies should be able to determine this for themselves and their particular sport. But that’s a little too pragmatic for a lot of folks.

But yeah, this gets you labeled an anti-trans bigot these days. Despite the fact practically speaking the particularities are involve really can’t be generalized. In some cases there will be a unfair advantage, in others, not.

gender war bullshit is bullshit.

lemmy is full of anti-men threads. there was a massive one a few days ago with 100s of comments. is that pro-woman?

I don’t know, personally I’m against anti-whatever nonsense. I’m not in any camp, but I will point out my gendered life experiences, because the often go against the popular grain of gender essentialism that many people are conceptual wedded to.

Because my experience has been that the opinions that aren’t tolerated here are themselves the bigoted opinions.

This is a tautology. All you are saying here is ‘anything i declared bigoted shouldn’t be tolerated’.

other people may not agree with your interpretation of bigoted. I see all sorts of hateful bigoted crap on here, it’s just about what group it’s targeting. I got banned from Autism community because I pointed out their bigoted hatred of ‘normies’ was messed up and many members there had a weird superiority complex about autism.

in my experience that’s especially true of certain instances, but not others. mostly along ideological lines.