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I’ve been independent since 18. I don’t maintain my independence… it’s never been an option for me to be a dependent on anyone else.

the interface. of which there are many, and many are quite poorly designed.

they need an enemy to cohere around. so leaving it open for men to comment and vilify helps them build group solidarity.

ironically i can post there and nobody calls me out. because my comments pass as a woman. i am too feminine to be a threat or something.

my experience of lemmy is groups 1 and 2 just attack and insult group 3.

at best they try to ‘educate’ you about how stupid you are for not being a communist or anarchist.

groups 1 and 2 don’t seem to have much tolerance for anyone who doesn’t believe in their ideologically rigid world view

80% of the comments i get screaming at me how i am a fascist pig are .ml users.

the major benefit is there isn’t enough of a dipshit brigade to drown out the genuine smart people who are saying insightful things… yet

but i’ve been here over a year, and the dipshit brigade is growing rapidly. soon enough they will become mods and start banning anyone who doesn’t agree with their dipshit agenda. but at least their power will be limited to only banning you on their particular instance.

reddit used to have lots of cool diverse voices, and that all ended once it became popular enough that your parents new what it was and corporations were desperate to use it to shrill and advertise.

personally i felt like anytime i sub went over 100,000 subscribers it rapidly went to shit. if it was under 100K it was usually a pretty cool place that allowed productive and interesting disagreement and various POV. then once the userbase grew the mods would always become ban happy for anyone they didn’t like who didn’t agree with their agenda/beliefs, and would hypocritically start lecturing users on tolerance and diversity and non abusive behaviour, while banning people over personal disagreements they had with users. i remember i once got banned in cycling subreddit because is said I thought Doritos were gross and the mod basically told me to go f myself for not like the same snack food as he did. lol

people like that are everywhere. they are probably your friends and neighbors.

most of my girlfriends who claim to be liberal progressives were rabidly racist or anti-lgbt. because i was their boyfriend they could ‘tell me how they really felt’ while they lied through their teeth in public to other people. the hypocracy was mind-blowing, but it’s incredibly common for people to do this.

why would that bother you? i see shit and piss on a daily basis on my subway. it’s not a big deal.

does seeing rats/pigeons on the subway also offend you?

that’s because my instance is gay and doesn’t like bad words for gay people

You’re basically saying everyone has to get PhDs and only ever talk as as if they are an academic conference. Otherwise they should shut up and not be bale to ever contribute to any conversation.

Do you not see the patent absurdity of that expectation?

Further, being an academic and have a PhD doesn’t make you less susceptible to misinformation and disinformation. I have known tons of PhDs and other highly educated professionals who believe in healing crystals, astrology, and other magical thinking nonsense.

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a massive insecurity complex that forms a endless need for validation from other people.

people like that have zero ability to self-validate their choices, so they need to broadcast every choice to others to tell them how great it is.

where i live, perceived bigotry against a third party is seen as way more offense than personal attacks. like people will go out of their way to twist your words to make them seem offensive because it gives them a reason to be upset.

i had a co-worker like this. she got fired for sexual harassment. would come in every weekend and loudly tell people about the hot guy that fucked her ass in detail.

right, so it’s only empathy if i’m upset about people who i will never meet who i have no connection to and have no interest in… and why would ever empathize with such theoretical people?

or are you saying empathy is purely a theretical construct totally devoid of my immediate real world experience? hence i can’t have empathy for my friend who just had to put down his cat, because he is my friend! i can only have empathy for who… people starving in africa?

because trump appeals to them. the democrats don’t, and tend to shit all over them as being unworthy pathetic losers for not having college degrees and high paying office jobs.