who are you to judge someone else’s parenting?

most child experts have widely different theories and practices. the type of things they do in Japan or Europe, for example, qualify as child abuse and neglect in the USA. and the things we do in the USA to kids seem horrific to europeans.

so what do you propose, sterilizing people who dont pass your litmus test?

frankly, i’ve had people scream at me my parents should have never had be because my parents were not rich and could not buy me nice things and pay for my college and graduate degrees for me. i had to pay for them myself. where i live people think that is child abuse and horrible and wrong. should we require that only people with massive wealth be able to have kids then?

wow yeah, what a loser i am. i should have been lucky enough to have parents that beat the shit out of me who were also poor. i’d be such a better person!

my point is your argument is stupid and draconian, and ultimately unenforcable. it’s merely a product of your own self-righteousness and need to control how others live their lives. if i had kids i’d force them to get jobs, just like i did. in your world that would be abusive parenting, probably. and i’d judge the shit out of them if they refused to work or were losers who didn’t contribute positively to society.

according to who, you?

the thing about other people’s actions is you don’t get to police them. plenty of people probably think your actions are horrible, stupid, and wrong.

doing that makes me depressed and suicidal.

i think people’s need for social competition means UBI would be a wash really. as in it wouldn’t really change much.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jewish_diaspora

so if some empire basically makes you religion illegal and extirpates/banishes your people from your historical homeland, you forever should submit to that fact?

the conflict goes back a lot further than 1948 and the founding of the state of Israel. The jews were refugees for centuries before they went back to Palestine and the state of israeli was a haven from the oppression they faced in their diaspora communities across the western and muslim worlds. in fact most israelis don’t come from the west/europe, they come from arab countries.

but hey don’t let complexity get in the way of your simplified notion of colonialism is bad and all colonialists are oppressors.

most people don’t want or need projects and adventures. they want to relax and do nothing in their spare time.

oh I’ve had problematic co-workers that went on about their queerness to the point where it was sexual harassment. like loudly talking about the anal sex with a trans person they had over the weekend.

thankfully they got fired.

yeah. trying new things and failing and getting better at them… has been really great. i recently was taking language and writing classes, and it’s been really interesting experience. it’s forcing me to interact with people outside of my bubble and it’s rewarding when i study and make an effort and punishing when i fail to do that.

feeling you are responsible for something other than yourself is a huge motivator that a lot of young people lack these days, and probably a huge disconnect why so many people are unhappy and anxious.

but then again when you propose people get involved in a deeper way with something outside themselves, like volunteering, they tell you to f off they don’t have the time. and yet they whine about how all they do is sit at home.

you can’t have the rewards without the responsibilities. I’ve always wanted children because i know that would be a lot of work/responsibility, but it would also make my life more than about my own personal goals and achievements. sadly i have never found a partner who felt the same way, mostly just people who thought children would detract from their own personal hedonistic fulfillment. which made we realize we were not compatible, because my life is and never was about personal hedonistic fulfillment.

that’s like… most people though.

most people are trying to do that. they want to grow their own wealth and are adverse to other people growing theirs. because life is a competition and those who have the most money are winning.

i’ve encounter a lot of that too amongst the vocally progressive types. massive hypocrisy.

i avoid anyone who bangs on about how progressive or queer they are now. it’s just not worth the risk.

he’s a narcissist, not a psychopath. there is some overlap but dennis isn’t a psychopath.

yeah i dated a woman who was a Art professor at a liberal arts school. She was native Korean. I stupidly assumed she was liberal and progressive…

She was incredibly fucking racist. She would talk about how all asian men should be rounded up and shot. She hated black and hispanic people.

She was a white supremacist. Straight up told me how she loved how tall and pale my skin was. And how much she loved asian/white people because they had so much moeny and the other races were all poor pieces of shit. It was creepy as fuck.

Broke up with a few days later. She also threatened to beat the shit out of me when i broke up with her and I basically had to threaten her with violence… that shut her up real fast.

a lot of people we assume are not racist and ignorant… are deeply racist and ignorance. they just understand they can’t be public about it without ruining their careers. i’ve also dated other so called ‘progressive’ women who were racist as fuck towards black/brown people, but not of the white supremacist variety. most the ‘those people are scary’ variety. but they saw nothing wrong with their own fear/hate of minorities in their personal life, as long as they lectured other people about how oppressed they were. it was so weird.

killing/tortuing animals is psychopathic behavior. especially if it is done deliberately.

I’ve met some low level sociopaths and some obvious narcissists. And a lot of people who were simple amoral when it came to using and abusing others for their own ends.

Nobody who was skinning cats for pleasure though. I interviewed a few Nazis for school projects. I would not call them evil.

IME ignorance is just a function of your inability or unwillingness to learn. Mostly because you are afraid of being ‘wrong’ or making mistakes.

that sounds like a massive lack of self-confidence.

none of those things are difficult. most people do them on auto pilot. you are thinking way too much.

you also falsely assume there is a ‘correct’ way to do these things and you will do it ‘wrong’. there isn’t.

i used to teach. biggest thing most people have to get over is their pre conception of a ‘right’ way to do things. there is only really what works for you, it only doesn’t work if you aren’t able to attain your goals.

like i meet people who think the only ‘correct’ way to have a child to make sure that child gets into Harvard… otherwise their child will be a failure at life. those people are idiots. the kid will be perfectly fine going to a state school, and maybe even not going to college at all…

what if you were never pretending, and you simply are your age.

they should make their community private then. that way they can control who virtually walks in the door, so to speak.

as is, there is no door. it’s a public space that anyone can access.