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Ah, but a man’s reach should exceed his grasp, Or what’s a heaven for?

• Robert Browning

You’re describing retirement. And, boy have I spent a LOT of time thinking about what that looks like.

A lot of people have lists of things they’d do, see, learn, or be. I had one too, but it kept fucking changing depending on where I was in life and what my interests were.

Any list I had always felt restrictive. Here’s where I ended up instead…

I would put my energy and attention only on the things that I want to put them on at any given time.

I guess some call that living in the moment, but I call it retirement.

The ‘common’ part of ‘common sense’

Not just you! But it wasn’t until I saw a quote from John Wayne that it registered for me…

Talk low, talk slow and don’t say too much"

I feel this so deeply…

Still every week

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…had someone rifle balls at you, as hard as they can, off of a bat or racquet. Something about facing it down and letting your instinctual reactions take over is viscerally primal.

Say what you mean, mean what you say.

Toilet paper that doesn’t exfoliate your pucker hole with a single wipe. I pay a little bit extra to not feel like I’m pooping in a construction site portable

Hands down, when someone is eating while using a handheld phone. No matter how hard you try, mics are designed to pick up audio from near your mouth, you WILL sound like a face hugger from Alien

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100% Obsidian (https://obsidian.md/)

There is a ton of content out there demo’ing Obsidian, but this 10min video is the one that did the trick for me: https://youtu.be/DbsAQSIKQXk?si=Wm_okygCkRrtqRQa

Honestly, the best way to lower your intake of sugar isn’t to replace it with a different sweetener. In most cases, you’ll find its not an adequate ‘replacement’ because psychologically, looking for a direct analog (or super close in taste at the minimum).

It’s the habit that needs to change, not the way you scratch the itch. I’m not a fan of absolutes, so I don’t think an intention of “no more refined sugar. Period.” is practical or reasonable. But cutting down how much you intake by reducing the frequency, that’ll do wonders for you.

This method is what kick started my journey down this same path. You can still have sugar (yay!), but you most likely won’t want to very often after not too long (wtf?).

It is so mind bottlingly crazy how much sugar is in literally everything from breads to sauces. Once I cut down how much sugar I was taking in (by cutting down how often I had a sweet drink of any kind, one drink at a time), I could taste the sweetness in food at restaurants, savory stuff from the bakery…I couldn’t escape it.

Now, I’ll have a couple of sweet drinks in a day. I control how much sugar I put in by not buying sweet drinks and instead making stuff at home. Coffee, flavored water, etc.

Long story short…

There is NO great methadone for refined sugar. If you want to reduce how much you’re ingesting, reduce the frequency. Be kind to yourself by setting reasonable, bite-sized goals so that the achievement encourages you to continue on and make more progress.

Anything in moderation; nothing in excess

Say what you mean; mean what you say.

No idea where I heard or read it, but preteen me internalized it and it’s become part of my creed to this day

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This brand of positivity you’re embodying is the most infectious one, and if I can feel it in your writing I imagine hearing it spoken from you would be some next level inspiration.

I’ve lost some people close to me over the years and what saddens me most is how I’ve forgotten so much about them beyond what they looked like. All of them except one…Gordon left behind audio recordings as his last messages to each of us in the group of friends.

Every time I hear his voice, it brings back so much about him that just can’t be said. His cadence, intonation, and overall manner of speaking have helped keep an entire person in my memory.

I wonder if that’s an option for you. I can say from experience that the lasting impact of audio is…powerful. Being able to actually hear my friend…i can imagine him speaking to me, and it’s in his voice because his voice is not forgotten.

Your family hearing your thoughts, in your voice…and being able to hear you speak long after your time…man, I can’t think of a better way to highlight your true personality and make it a lasting one.