You can’t explain how empathy works and think understanding it is vapid so your beleifs about what is and isn’t possible, how and when, seem highly suspect. How do you know men and women are equally capable of how empathy, or if what is required to encourage it, is present?

Yeah that’s pretty ignorant of them. It might reduce the risk, because the circumstances make it harder to convincingly lie about, but it doesn’t ensure anything. One circumstance of uncertainty and a skilled and motivated individual is all it takes.

I’ve been sexually assaulted multiple times over my life, all by women. I did not conceive of the actions as assault until I heard women’s claims, of the same actions, be accepted as a form of sexual assault. Men absolutely under report their sexual assault, especially as the definition continues to be expanded, including more behaviors that men have already dismissed.

Yes. Higher risk of one thing over another does not mean high.

Few of them ever are…which is an example of the point. Stories of men’s experiences are not wanted. So when the topics affecting men are brought up, it’s the closest many get to being heard. Which, of course, they get attacked for. It’s not the place but there is no place so it never gets heard. Seems to me like a little system of censorship and oppression.

Why? Most people, most of the time, focus on the perceived threats to themselves. Men, some subgroup of men in particular, are at a higher risk of false accusations than of sexual assault. What is seen as a danger to them is likely what they’ll focus on. And that’s a very reasonable and fair thing to do. Is that not exactly what women do when they focus on the risk of sexual assault and not on the risk of false accusations?

Both are legitimate fears. Both make sense. Both should be respected but only one actually is, across society.

And I’ve hung out with plenty of men and they’ve never sexually assaulted me…

Sounds like it an incredibly important question if you want more empathy in the world.

That is not a task for men. That is a demand from women. If men can only decide to believe based on the trust they have with the speaker then the speaker must earn their trust. It is not men’s responsibility to become trusting of women, just because women want it. If women want men to trust their words then it’s women’s responsibility to gain men’s trust. It would be profoundly unwise of men to believe without either trust or safety. How often do you ever concern yourself with the safety of men? Because from my experiences, those of my male friends and of the media women like most, women ensuring men feel safe enough to trust is not a concept that rarely ever appears, nevermind it being respected when it does.

For reasons that should be obvious, no.

Sexual assault rates of women are not direct indicators of the number of, or gender of, perpetrators. 1/3 of women being victims doesn’t make 1/3 of men perpetrators. That does not follow.

Asking people if they’re a sexual abuser isn’t going to have them saying yes. This is a known barrier in research to getting accurate information of prevalence because people won’t be honest if you ask them if they are an abuser. So asking men I know really isn’t great advice, is it?

Also let me guess, 1/3 of women experience sexual assault of some kind, at some point in their life? That’s a pretty wide net to cast…

Perhaps you can clarify what makes someone a ‘disgusting predator’ so we’re both not he same page?

And how do we accomplish that?

It is because I have empathy for both women and men. It also means those who don’t understand ,or get offended, may lack the empathy for both needed to understand the point made. Do you empathize with men’s experience of women?

You’re free to do so and people are free to disagree if they find your claims engaging. How many comments on the internet do you think are unsubstantiated claims? I’m guessing this isn’t the response you give for the vast majority of them, is it? What compelled you to do so for this one?

A ride with me is already not an option for you.

The vast majority of men never were. How few do you need to feel safe? No men ever? Do you even know?

But the fear of sexual assault is why women prefer women, so ain’t the fear of accusations a justifiable reason? Why does it have to be equal to matter?

If men can never know. How can men ever trust women’s calls to action on the issues are fair, just or worthwhile?

The link isn’t to inform people, it’s to make the title more beleivable.

Women’s fear of men seems like it will naturally encourage gender segregation in society. If women have control of the formation of that segregation it will move toward privileges and advantages exclusive to women. Since society has finite resources, any community resources that are used exclusively for the beneficial segregation of women, can easily produce inequalities. This is a problem without a fair or equitable solution.