I was here for the whole thing but was too new and too scared to ask what the hell all the beans were about. Can someone explain the history beanstory to me?

Many such cases

There’s no mention of any of this in an article about how she qualified. In fact, you can go and watch her qualifications on YouTube and it looks like she did 1v1 battles against some mediocre opposition and won each time.

From what I could find, her husband’s name is Samuel Free and I can’t find his name listed on either the AusBreaking or DanceSport Australia websites.

Maybe some Lemmy sleuths can find something to confirm that something nefarious was going on here, but to me it just looks like the idea that her qualification was rigged is just a Reddit rumour. If anything, it looks more likely that she participated in a closed qualification system that didn’t allow for the best competitors to show up

But does that auto accept cookies like many of these other anti cookie banner extensions?

I don’t know you but my advice is that you talk to a therapist before you condemn yourself to a life of unhappiness. What you’re thinking about yourself is not always objective, even if you think it is. Being self-critical is not the same as being realistic

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There’s actually too little cheese lady content on the timeline

Thing is, sex is not a privilege. If you - as someone in such a situation as OP - can’t accept that, you are in danger of growing… hateful views.

No one is entitled to sex, I agree. But in a relationship, you are allowed to make clear what your needs are and move on if those needs aren’t being met. It’s not entitlement to know what you want. Having a ‘dead bedroom’ is why a lot of relationships end.

I don’t want to become such a person, and it’s clear that it’s not their fault that they are not attracted to me. Realizing this helped me accept it.

If I may ask, was there any physical attraction between you two when you met?

I’m not denying that ace spectrum people have relationships and settle down as well. But OP is asking about the normative (read allosexual) experience and explicitly mentions physical attraction.

The vast majority of relationships will involve physical attraction and sex. It’s highly unusual for that to not be the case for allosexual people. That’s not a value judgement—if a minority of allo people find something else works for them, then that’s great. But if OP is asking if this is normal, then no it’s not. Even ‘less attractive’ people, as OP put it, find people they’re attracted to enough to enjoy a lifetime of intimacy and sex with.

Overcoming a lack of physical attraction is a pretty big barrier and I can’t see most people overcoming that barrier just to ‘settle down.’ Not being your physical ideal is one thing, most of us settle down with people who don’t look like models or actors, but finding someone physically unattractive is a tough sell in most cases.

If you don’t find someone physically attractive, how do you settle down with them? Do you just accept getting into bed with someone you’re physically repulsed by every night?

Amazing tagline. You should pitch this to their marketing team

The point is not that we can’t imagine speculative technologies. The point is that this is a grift which distracts from the real and present threat of AI like the threats to privacy, artists’ livelihoods and the internet itself which is being poisoned by LLM generated content

I don’t think he plans on delivering much product at all

Well good news. If the product you’re imagining is ‘Skynet’ or a ‘god-mommy’ both of those are science fiction and we don’t need whatever this bullshit is to save us

Possibly the most obtuse person I’ve encountered on Lemmy

I think we need regulation, that doesn’t make me a person who irrationally hates children skateboarding.

Also skateboarding hasn’t led to and been complicit in genocide on two continents, but social media has in Asia and Africa. If it had, maybe you’d see people writing op-eds about that instead of social media companies that value profits more than human life

Again… banning the worst practices of social media is to help people. I think this is a comprehension issue at this point.

We need to break them up, and legislate against their practices for the future but this is something that can happen right away and hit them in their pockets

That was in my original comment. I was clearly making the point that the aim is to legislate against harmful practices. I don’t think most people need it spelled out for them why that is, or why we can’t do it right away but I’ve done my best to be patient in explaining it to you.

If you want to take a weird stance that I’m being mean to corporations that’s up to you, but I didn’t say anything vengeful let alone posted a ‘screed’

It’s really not about revenge. It’s about taking back power from corporations and giving it to the people. Right now, political power is with the highest bidder and these companies know it.

They are using the money from advertising to lobby and buy politicians, which is what stops us from having sensible regulations for social media. Taking away that revenue stream inhibits their ability to do this, so it’s a win for the people

The relatively low level of plastic in our testicles

The rest of these comments are surprising because I don’t remember anyone past an interaction we had. Now I’m wondering whose shit list I’m on