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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • From myself: I have two kids, and I’ve said harsh things to them a few times (I am sometimes too emotional and impulsive - I can scream something I will regret later in a middle of an argument). Talking helps, it really does, as I feel that me and my kids - “we’re good”.
    I think it’s important to do a full analysis of what happened, with them:

    • an apology: “whatever were the reasons, you are hurt, and you shouldn’t be hurt”
    • I did it because I was said/angry about this and that. Not in a “defense mode” (see previous bullet point, I am not saying I’m right), but just to explain that some people get sad or angry, and say shit, as I did
      It becomes clear what I did wrong, why (helps if they want to see how they could do better, but I’m not emphasizing they need to correct themselves - that would be victim blaming) but that I love them. And the very conversation shows how we can talk about our issues in general.





  • I’m Russian, I started learning (school doesn’t count) chatting playing pool at Yahoo.games in the beginning of 2000s.
    Then I stopped getting translated versions of games (when I got Morrowind, my head literally hurt due to the amount of “foreign” texts I had to read). So, Internet and games taught me in the beginning.
    Then, I was asked to translate at business meetings in my (quite small) company, I did some contract translations as well.
    Then I got into IT (like 2012 or so), where you use English in many situations. In 2019, I got into an international company, where I spoke English as a main language for three years. Along the way I moved to Denmark, so now, in addition to my kinda broken English, I have a really shitty Danish.