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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • Yup it is part of the annual code of conduct training at my work.

    I also had to attend sexual harassment and alcohol abuse lectures as a part of freshman orientation at my university back 20ish years ago. It didn’t cost extra, so I’m not sure what the title is referring to. The title makes it seem like they are infuriated by the required training in general, which really doesn’t make much sense to me.



  • I feel pretty fortunate that my lowest point wasn’t that bad in the grand scheme of things.

    I was stuck in a dead end job that paid peanuts and was in a somewhat codependent relationship with someone who was not good for me. I also couldn’t afford to move out of my parents basement due to the crappy job.

    Ultimately, I realized I had to make drastic changes due to being pretty miserable with my life. I quit my job and went back to uni for a more marketable degree. I worked my ass off to get good internships and ended up at one that turned into a full-time job that I’ve now been at for over a decade. My ex did me the favor of dumping me. I ended up meeting my now spouse at my career job. We bought a house, got a dog, have traveled to numerous countries, and saved enough money that work is becoming increasingly optional.

    Overall, I just had to recognize that the status quo was making me miserable and starting to incrementally making changes to my life that would get me closer to where I wanted to be. Past me never could have imagined what was to come for present me, but by just taking one step at a time to improve things, I’ve found incredible happiness.






  • Most junk food in the US has gone off the rails in terms of price. Like seriously, don’t spend money on food that has zero nutritional value and is actively harmful to your health. You’ll feel so much better and your bank account will be so much bigger.

    I guess I have corporate America to thank for no longer buying chips, candy, or baked goods that I might’ve otherwise splurged on as a treat. Can’t justify it with prices the way they are.




  • I guess it depends on your goals and the timeline you have. I did Dreaming Spanish pretty intensively (1-2hrs a day) for 10 months. My goal was to be able to understand native Spanish speakers and hopefully communicate back to them. I absolutely achieved my goal in that when I went to a place with native speakers I could at least get the gist of what they were saying almost always, even in somewhat complex situations. However, I was basically able to speak on the level of a toddler and had to rely on Google translate to get what I needed to say across.

    If you want to speak the language faster, then there are certainly ways to do it that may work better, but you will have to do more translation work that is mentally taxing. In the long run, if your goal is fluency, I believe CI should be prioritized initially and then you can go in and learn grammar rules and such later (much like how you learn your native language through input for the first 5 years of life then you go to school and learn the rules there).









  • Having $100k stashed away is great! Check out the book “A Simple Path to Wealth” by JL Colllins for investment advice.

    I’d recommend you stop comparing yourself to others and focus on what you want in life. You say you don’t know if you should use your savings as a down payment for a house or not, but do you even want to own a house? Homeownership is very much a lifestyle choice. With rent, that is the maximum you will have to pay. Your mortgage is just the bare minimum. If I was single, I would not want to live in a house. I would either rent or potentially buy a condo.

    You say your an individualist but are scared of being alone. What are you doing to build relationships (romantic or not) and community?