• 9point6@lemmy.world
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    11 hours ago

    it’s about interpreting tone.

    Kinda feels passive aggressive, idk man

    That’s silly, and at the very least probably gonna cause unconscious bias to second language speakers, neurodivergent people & just anyone who doesn’t communicate via text as much as we do

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      11 hours ago

      That’s silly

      I don’t know what to tell you, communication is complicated. A lot of this is subconscious.

      and at the very least probably gonna cause unconscious bias to second language speakers, neurodivergent people & just anyone who doesn’t communicate via text as much as we do

      I agree, which is why it’s important for us to understand context and to attempt to interpret what the other person says in the best light.

      I didn’t think my dad was actually being sarcastic when he replied that way. His text conveyed a tone he didn’t intend, just like when my neurodivergent ass says something in a tone of voice harsher than I intend.

      This is no different from spoken communication, except there we get additional clues about neurodivergence and/or linguistic familiarity.

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        6 hours ago

        I didn’t think my dad was actually being sarcastic when he replied that way. His text conveyed a tone he didn’t intend, just like when my neurodivergent ass says something in a tone of voice harsher than I intend.

        Both of those are people inferring meaning that isn’t there. I would bet money you didn’t say stuff in a tone of voice harsher than you meant, they just didn’t like what you were saying and read way too much into it.