I think there is validity in the criticism that folks are quick to jump to mocking gay acts and the like as an insult when they feel the target is valid to attack. It circles back to the people you’re attacking will never see this, but those that agree with you will see it and realize you think this aspect of them is worthy of derision.
Ah federation can do that. Though I also just happened to see it at like 1 min old when I started replying. :\
My point isn’t about them being gay, more that when you turn something that should otherwise be neutral into an insult because you don’t like the person, it can speak to a deeper bias that one may otherwise be blind to.
Like if you have a partner cheat on you, and we are shit talking them and I say “Yeah, and I bet their from fucking Detroit too”, there is a little bit of like “wait, what’s wrong with people from Detroit?”
Some folks feel similarly about when people jump to gay jokes with political figures they disagree with. In .ml fashion they are quite decisive in their take on the matter.
I grew up in the 90s where “gay” was the go-to insult for basically everything. If people didn’t like it or didn’t understand it it was automatically “gay” because they saw being gay as the same.
I didn’t know at the time I was trans and gay, but I didn’t like it and while I wasn’t exactly feminine I didn’t act like the boys around me so that is what they went with. Also didn’t help I had undiagnosed ADHD and autism.
I think there is validity in the criticism that folks are quick to jump to mocking gay acts and the like as an insult when they feel the target is valid to attack. It circles back to the people you’re attacking will never see this, but those that agree with you will see it and realize you think this aspect of them is worthy of derision.
wow, you were fast. I deleted that almost immediately.
However, to your reply: It was an anonymous internet user. It may or may not have been gay.
Ah federation can do that. Though I also just happened to see it at like 1 min old when I started replying. :\
My point isn’t about them being gay, more that when you turn something that should otherwise be neutral into an insult because you don’t like the person, it can speak to a deeper bias that one may otherwise be blind to.
Like if you have a partner cheat on you, and we are shit talking them and I say “Yeah, and I bet their from fucking Detroit too”, there is a little bit of like “wait, what’s wrong with people from Detroit?”
Some folks feel similarly about when people jump to gay jokes with political figures they disagree with. In .ml fashion they are quite decisive in their take on the matter.
I grew up in the 90s where “gay” was the go-to insult for basically everything. If people didn’t like it or didn’t understand it it was automatically “gay” because they saw being gay as the same.
I didn’t know at the time I was trans and gay, but I didn’t like it and while I wasn’t exactly feminine I didn’t act like the boys around me so that is what they went with. Also didn’t help I had undiagnosed ADHD and autism.