• Warl0k3@lemmy.world
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    12 hours ago

    … So, are you queer? Because in my experience bad representations of queer sex/relationships are a huge portion of the experience.

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      12 hours ago

      I am actually. I’m pan married to a trans person. Also Poly. I’m all over the queer spectrum lol.

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        5 hours ago

        I dont know what all this means

        What is a queer spectrum?

        What is “pan married”? As opposed to normal marriage?

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        12 hours ago

        IDK what genitals you have so you may not be able to relate to the sexual aspect specifically as shown here, but do you never get tired of seeing the wild misrepresentation of what poly relationships are like in media?

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          Speaking just personally, I don’t really care myself how Poly is represented. My polyqueue is a happy little dynamic and that’s what matters. If media wants to say “haha look at us, we’re poly” and it’s just a bunch of group sex without the actual realization they are all individual relationships the same as mono ones, so be it.

          Then again, poly in media is pretty under-represented. Lesbians in media are almost over-represented because of the ease of over sexualization of it. So I can totally understand your annoyance in the manufactured representation.

          I suppose I came off a bit much in my first comment. I just know a couple lesbian friends who trib and they enjoy it.

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            It’s a square/rectangle thing, really. Tribbing is absolutely a thing, scissoring as a specific type of tribbing (as it is represented in porn) really isn’t.

            I suppose I came off a bit much in my first comment.

            I’ll be real, it’s pretty disheartening to get from a queer person the same kind of casual dismissal I get from (ex) my conservative-leaning relatives when correcting exhaustively common stereotypes about queer women. I’m sincerely glad you’re okay with the common stereotypes of you though.