Long story short I have never been successful in dating in any shape or form and it’s starting to really affect my everyday life. I have been in therapy for over 7 years (recently quit) to no avail. I am already on antidepressants which thankfully dampens my libido a bit but I now I want it all the way gone.
So anyway, should I tell my family about this? Nothing will really change if I do, but a part of me is telling they ought to know, you know? But I am not sure if I want to.
Edit: I have decided I am not going to tell them.
I get it, it seems like it will never change, but it will. I have a neighbor, a life-long bachelor, met his wife in his late 50s. She had 9 grown kids, and a zillion grandkids. He went from being alone to being part of a tribe, just when he thought his life was setting. That might be more than you’re looking for, but it illustrates the point.
Your life is going to take a series of turns that you can’t predict. Don’t do anything permanent that will limit your future.
From my point of view it kind of proves my point. Why would I endure decades of loneliness with an insufferable libido with the only consolation ending up with a woman when I’m in my fifties.
YOU are missing the point. I’m not saying it won’t happen until your 50s, I’m saying that you never know when it will happen. I was 33 when I got married. Never even got close before that, with friends getting married and divorced before my first. Just because you are looking around and seeing it happen to others, doesn’t mean your chance has passed.