• Snot Flickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    Once again, you whining that people don’t like you isn’t the same as caring about your civil rights dumbfuck. I gave you a lot of outs in this conversation, but your whiny bitch ass just wants to keep digging a deeper hole to prove how unlikable you are. Well, guess what, you succeeded, I officially don’t like you and think you suck. Not because you’re a bad person, but because you have zero self reflection and whine about lame shit when people tried to help you understand and do better.

    Be happy, you got what you really wanted, people don’t like you. Good job, it’s a self fulfilling prophecy you fucking idiot. If the only thing you put out into the world is “no one likes me and everyone judges me” eventually, that’s all you’ll get from the world. You get out what you put in, and you’re obviously all too happy to put in “I want people to fucking hate me so I can be sad and bitter about it.”

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      At least you finally understand. It took you long enough to get it through your head. Now go look yourself in a mirror and see the monster lurking within, waiting for you to let your guard down long enough that it can break free.

      Of course it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. That’s how trauma works. A pattern was ingrained in my deep subconscious at an early age, and I’ve been reliving it on repeat ever since. Even if someone gives me a chance, I drive them away because it’s easier than building something on potential only to inevitably see it come crashing down. I don’t need the anxiety of constantly dreading when that might come. I don’t even try to build relationships anymore, because according to my cognitive conditioning it can only end in pain and disaster.

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        I drive them away because it’s easier than building something on potential only to inevitably see it come crashing down.

        So you finally admit that you’re the problem here. Glad you recognized it. Now shut the fuck up.

        You aren’t your cognitive conditioning, you can make a choice to be different. You don’t want to make that choice, ergo, you can fuck off. That’s me setting a boundary with someone who obviously isn’t worth the effort.

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          Nope, this conversation started with you saying your ex isn’t to blame for her trauma, and now you’re blaming me for my trauma.

          She left you because she couldn’t handle being treated with respect. And you say that’s okay, but I’m wrong for avoiding relationships for similar reasons? (In addition to growing accustomed to rejection, ostracization, ridicule, and derision)

          Still the same double standard I’ve been pointing out all along… maybe if I chop my dick off and wear a dress then someone will finally give a shit, or at least I’ll be allowed to talk about my problems even if no one cares…

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            My ex grew and changed. You haven’t. That’s the part you’ve conveniently ignored this whole time. I literally explained that in an earlier post, but you’re more than happy to ignore information that conflicts with your fake ass worldview. I’m not some shmuck who thinks she is irredeemable because she didn’t choose me, and instead eventually found someone else who really treated her right, after struggling with her trauma for a while. If she had kept doing dumb shit and getting with abusive men her whole life maybe your argument would have a leg to stand on, but right now your argument is a fucking quadriplegic.

            As I said before, she eventually got divorced and broke free from her traumatic past and is now happily married to a good man and has kids. But sure, the fact that she grew and changed means nothing and means she’s to blame! No, losers like you you refuse to grow are the only people to blame.

            It’s not a double standard if it’s bullshit you made up in your own head that doesn’t match the facts of the situation.

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              I’ve already told you, I’ve put effort into growth. It only got me shat on. I haven’t always been this resigned to defeat.

              Some people overcome trauma, some people don’t. Just because some people escape poverty doesn’t mean the ones who can’t are to blame for their own condition.

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                All I hear is the equivalent of a Republican saying “well Democrats said I’m a racist so I guess that means I should be mega racist Nazi.”

                Seriously if that’s your takeaway, that your self improvement was for nothing because you didn’t get what you wanted out of it instead of self improvement being for its own sake, then you’re doing the same thing. You’re choosing to be worse because you’re too weak to stand up and be better. Sorry not sorry.

                Just like Nazis, if people being not nice to you and saying you’re being racist means you should go as deeply Nazi as possible: something is seriously wrong with you that not even trauma can explain or justify.

                Being a bad bitter person blaming everyone else isn’t ever justified. Hopefully you learn that some day. If not oh well one less loser in the world.

                Saying “people were mean to me so I need to double down and be worse about the things they said were bad about me” isn’t the flex you think it is

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                  I’ve always wanted to open my wrists in a public place, to traumatize everyone around me. They’ll probably celebrate my death, so I won’t give them the satisfaction of doing it quietly in a dark corner. I’m not mean enough to be violent towards others, though. But no one’s ever grateful for all the times I’ve exercised self-restraint. Oh well.

                  The world is going to shit, anyway. It’s a shame about all the loss of biodiversity. Nature was always my refuge, but humanity destroys all things good. I won’t care when they destroy themselves. It’s only a matter of time…

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                    Man you really just want to prove how genuinely unhinged you are and how little you’ve done to grow, huh?

                    No one who has actually had serious self-growth would ever in a fucking million years want to force other people to want to watch them commit suicide to punish them.

                    Seriously, my ex did that shit to me. Why? Because we were in an argument about how I had cancer and was working full-time, did all the cooking, cleaning, shopping, and life planning and she sat on her butt at home. So she decided to tell me I never really loved her and tried to force me watch her kill herself because I had the fucking audacity to ask for help after I had been struggling with cancer for a year already. It has left me all fucked up, but the only people I blame for that is her and me specifically. Her for being so petty as to try to force me to watch her kill herself (by trying to swallow all my cancer meds no less) after over a decade of basically being her caretaker, and myself for not having the balls to make a boundary earlier before she tried to do this fucked up thing to me. Anyway, good job, you successfully triggered me over some fucked up shit I’ve been through.

                    No one who has ever done the work and experienced real growth would ever do that to another person, especially not just random people as you seem to be implying you would do it to. You are deeply fucked up, and you have made no growth as much as you lie to yourself that you have. If you ever had any real serious personal growth, you wouldn’t ever be saying shit like that you fucking sociopath. Like that’s the whole thing, you’ve said an unimaginable amount of selfish fucked up things here today, shifted goalposts from “there’s a double standard” to “well she grew past her trauma but not everyone grows past their trauma like me for example”, and have generally been one of the biggest fucking whiners I have ever encountered, but even when you admitted that you purposefully push people away because it’s easier to be an angry angsty asshole who feels sorry for themselves than it is to actually be a decent human being, you still haven’t put two and two together that you haven’t actually grown at all and you’re the actual fucking problem here and maybe, just maybe, that you are the reason people don’t like you, not the cruel cruel world.

                    I mean, even if humans didn’t destroy themselves, it’s not like the heat death of the universe isn’t inescapable. Yawn, what a load of existential crisis bollocks. You’re pathetic.