Is it as many people describe? Do you have an easy or difficult time with it?

  • CXORA@aussie.zone
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    16 小时前

    Well, i got on some dating apps, spoke with some guys who fizzled out, had some awkward dinners, and eventually got a boyfriend. Together for 3 years now.

    For specifics.

    • I live in a major city so dating pool is relatively large.
    • be realistic about your own looks when approaching people. I’m pretty average looking and when I approach guys who are cute but not outlandishly gorgeous I had a better time.
    • some people will try and neg you during a date. It will be super obvious. It will make the date suck
    • don’t stick out a bad date because of any sense of obligation.

    It took me a long time to find someone who I meshed with, and who I was excited to see every day. It only really clicked when I stopped trying so hard on dates. Just… had an honest conversation.

    I would rather gnaw off my own foot than go on another first date.

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        1 小时前

        Yeap. Strange choice to make, I agree. But negging at any time is a strange choice.

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          48 分钟前

          Are you just fucking with me? ha ha, I was wondering what negging means never heard it before.

          I just looked it up, so thinly veilied insults, backhanded compliments, or to attack someone’s self confidence to make them more vulnerable to hooking up with assholes kind of. I can’t imagine doing such a thing trying to pick a girl up that is incredible this is like andrew tate manfluencer type of stuff.